tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post1251320597593651961..comments2023-07-05T03:54:03.268-04:00Comments on He Will Carry Me: Another generous offer and other news...Stacy Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13237198188394672456noreply@blogger.comBlogger44125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-12750878799560947712008-12-11T23:47:00.000-05:002008-12-11T23:47:00.000-05:00I know exactly how you feel. When I received Levi...I know exactly how you feel. When I received Levi's birth certificate, I expected the same certificate my other children got. My breath caught in my throat when I opened it, and I felt so cheated. Why could they not have given me a birth certificate and death certificate separately? Why would that have been so hard. I wonder if there is any way to get them change?Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15529367534428499806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-35410413245699580922008-12-09T20:57:00.000-05:002008-12-09T20:57:00.000-05:00What a heartbreaking stamp. I'm so sorry. I cont...What a heartbreaking stamp. I'm so sorry. I continue to pray for you and Spencer.JackiJaguarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11445296139546408197noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-39767698374844025272008-12-07T13:02:00.000-05:002008-12-07T13:02:00.000-05:00Stacy, I am so sorry about Isaac's birth certifica...Stacy, <BR/>I am so sorry about Isaac's birth certificate. It hurt me to read your words. I agree with other posters that said to call to get a new birth certificate. Can you call the hospital about this? You are entitled to have that birth certificate that celebrates Isaac's birth and does not acknowlegde his death. I hope you are able to do this for yourself and for Isaac.<BR/>Much love and prayer to you and your family,<BR/>Lindsay (WinsyWade on BOTB)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-33828063101275808292008-12-06T23:23:00.000-05:002008-12-06T23:23:00.000-05:00Oh, I'm so sorry you had to see those words on his...Oh, I'm so sorry you had to see those words on his birth certificate. My heart is breaking for you.<BR/>Many hugs and prayers,<BR/>AmandaAmanda Hoythttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02895652232932076943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-25613998379881079792008-12-06T21:30:00.000-05:002008-12-06T21:30:00.000-05:00I'm so sorry you have to live through each of thes...I'm so sorry you have to live through each of these moments. I'll continue to pray for your family and especially for God to protect your hearts from additional pains.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09271628476633910166noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-62661883674035033902008-12-06T12:24:00.000-05:002008-12-06T12:24:00.000-05:00OK- so I have never commented on your blog before ...OK- so I have never commented on your blog before and you don't know me from Adam. I am from Iowa and stumbled across your blog and read it and pray for you. I had to comment today. I TOTALLY agree that you need to call or better yet, go in person if possible, and get a new birth certificate! Sometimes people that work at those places need to be able to put a face to a name and realize that human hearts are involved here. Stick up for yourself on this one!Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11540105016220888708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-59754358799887033562008-12-06T12:00:00.000-05:002008-12-06T12:00:00.000-05:00Stacy,I can not believe how heartless the Vital St...Stacy,<BR/><BR/>I can not believe how heartless the Vital Statistics office was in handling Isaac's birth certificate. I am so sorry to hear how that was handled. I would agree with sandi's comment and contact them, telling them to send a new copy without the stamp. I my thoughts and prayers are with you and Spencer.Antoniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03411612673469491750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-57032463932071451672008-12-06T10:59:00.000-05:002008-12-06T10:59:00.000-05:00praying for you in Georgia...praying for you in Georgia...HJWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10174578561632988197noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-66823038005614142202008-12-06T04:04:00.000-05:002008-12-06T04:04:00.000-05:00Oh Stacy...I'm so sorry! This happened to us too!...Oh Stacy...I'm so sorry! This happened to us too! We were so thrilled to receive the birth certificates. We stared at them forever; thought they were great. It was only when I held them up to the light that I could see, this faint writing - the kind that, like, if you copied it on the copy machine, you'd see plain as day. I couldn't even say the word - I just called it "The D Word". Like I said, it was faint in the background, but I showed it to Jon. He couldn't see it until I pointed it out...deceased. It killed me. The one thing I wanted was to have something NORMAL from the experience; something that every little boy or girl actually born would receive, but ours were tainted and awful. I barely look at them because I hate them.<BR/><BR/>The SS cards were worse. We applied for them for a few reasons, but primarily because we wanted their names counted in the SSA database (to help keep "Jacob" as the #1 name in the US!) and also in case people were doing geneology, they could find our boys. We got them fairly easily, but when they arrived, I was equally disgusted. One of the workers actually wrote ALL OVER IT in dark black marker, DECEASED. HANDWRITTEN. I wanted to throw up.<BR/><BR/>And as for the suggestion by some that you request another birth certificate without that notation on it? In PA, that is not possible. They claim they must issue birth certificates and such with that word on it because they were issued after death. It is an identify theft prevention; so that no one could steal (or you could not sell...as if you would though!) the birth certificate as a means to obtain false identification. I dont' know what MD's laws are, but that's what we were told. <BR/><BR/>I'm so very sorry. I went through this exact scenario and it broke my heart too.Foreverloveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13391985814920303681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-76109283853482613432008-12-06T02:47:00.000-05:002008-12-06T02:47:00.000-05:00Dear Stacy,I'm so sorry to read how upset you were...Dear Stacy,<BR/>I'm so sorry to read how upset you were when Isaac's birth certificate arrived. I understand completely - we were so thrilled when our son Will was born alive, because it meant we would have a birth certificate as well as a death certificate, and people looking back through the records in years to come would know that he was real, and he was here. I think we do things differently here in the UK - we have to go to the register office to tell them about births and deaths, so we get the certificates there and then. Will's birth certificate makes no mention of the fact that he died shortly after birth - as another commenter says, you have the death certificate to tell you that. I'm sure if you contact your equivalent of the register office and explain the situation, they will be able to send you another certificate without the stamp on. Thinking of you, and sending you much love at this tough time of the year. Alison XPete, Ali, Charlie and Rosiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11106369302348116832noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-42423841080196291862008-12-05T23:25:00.000-05:002008-12-05T23:25:00.000-05:00Dear Stacy,I would call the office and request one...Dear Stacy,<BR/><BR/>I would call the office and request one without the stamp. I think they have to legally stamp the birth certificates for fear that someone could steal Isaac's identity. <BR/><BR/>I'm so sorry you had to have this happen to you now. You remain in my thoughts and prayersAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-59305939597705073912008-12-05T21:53:00.000-05:002008-12-05T21:53:00.000-05:00That makes my heart hurt. :(Many are praying for ...That makes my heart hurt. :(<BR/><BR/>Many are praying for you from Knoxville, Tennessee.<BR/>I completely understand why that would be so devastating.<BR/> I hope someone will FIX it for you.The Knight Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04745510595016814754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-67303379449670564302008-12-05T20:19:00.000-05:002008-12-05T20:19:00.000-05:00Oh hun...this is just horrible. There is no reaso...Oh hun...this is just horrible. There is no reason why they can't give you a new birth certificate SEPARATE from a death certificate. The people who process these docs are simply paper-pushers and don't realize the emotion behind it..... <BR/><BR/>I really hope you're able to get what you need for your soul's healing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-28250196513755011372008-12-05T18:52:00.000-05:002008-12-05T18:52:00.000-05:00I'm so sorry about the birth certificate. That's ...I'm so sorry about the birth certificate. That's horrible! How could everyone stamp that (protocol or not)?<BR/><BR/>On another note, I have to tell you that I am bothered by the fact that people are profiting off of Isaac's death. These Mary Kay and other small businesses that are offering to make donations to Isaac's playground is, in my opinion a twisted attempt at increasing their own business and using Isaac's blog for free advertising. If these people were truly interested in helping, why not just donate a portion of their sales without requiring your followers to purchase? Why is their donation contingent on how much business your site draws in? In my opinion it's a distraction from Isaac's memorial. <BR/><BR/>Again, if these women want to help, why can't they donate to Isaac's playground without marketing their business ventures on Isaac's blog?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-28253928783701051682008-12-05T16:45:00.000-05:002008-12-05T16:45:00.000-05:00What a terrible thing for them to do to you. I am...What a terrible thing for them to do to you. I am so sorry. I would call the office and ask for a new one. I really can't see why that was necessary on their part. My hearts aches for you, but I continue to feel inspired by your love of our Lord.Mrs. Schaefferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00974157830681423433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-59539931340833490722008-12-05T16:42:00.000-05:002008-12-05T16:42:00.000-05:00That was heartless. It is so sad that they are si...That was heartless. It is so sad that they are sitting in that office, not even thinking of what their little stamp is doing to a poor mother living without her sweet baby. I know you didn't write that part to get everyone to hate the vital records office... but seriously, if breaking a mom's heart is "standard procedure" maybe they need to reevaluate their procedures. I'm so sorry for that reminder... one that could have been prevented if someone was just thinking.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-38323159708888515552008-12-05T16:41:00.000-05:002008-12-05T16:41:00.000-05:00I am so sorry for your pain!I cried because my fir...I am so sorry for your pain!<BR/>I cried because my first daughter's hospital band (from her arm) had slipped off somehow, and probably ended up in the hospital laundry...I could not have this keepsake, because the hospital needed to keep her legband as a record of her release. She is a happy, healthy, 11 year old now- so silly of me to be sad about that when I had a healthy baby to take home!<BR/>I can only imagine your sadness and wish for you that they could print one for you without that stamp on it!<BR/>...I have a baby brother in heaven, and at that time, they kept nothing for memories...and I wish we had something! <BR/><BR/>I check your blog regularly, and I am curious if you plan to write more letters to your sweet Isaac? Maybe you do this privately....<BR/>Praying for you,<BR/>LynneAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-53745605435998122162008-12-05T16:32:00.000-05:002008-12-05T16:32:00.000-05:00Stacy,My heart goes out to you - what a horrible t...Stacy,<BR/><BR/>My heart goes out to you - what a horrible thing to have on your son's birth certificate! He was on this earth, and lived and breathed for 16 minutes (not to mention the 9 months in your stomach!)! Why would they stamp his precious birth certificate with deceased? I would call the state, and demand a birth certificate that Isaac's birth, and a seperate one for his death. How cold and thoughtless of the state. I am so sorry about this, and please know that my heart goes out to you. It just doesn't seem fair that something affirming Isaac's life, and something you were looking forward to would be such a sad disappointment. Maybe your call will bring attention to an otherwise overlooked aspect, and help future families going through the loss of their infant.<BR/><BR/>Hugs,<BR/>LizLiz and Will Timmermanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12796278886819154013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-16011789465668865992008-12-05T16:24:00.000-05:002008-12-05T16:24:00.000-05:00I'm so sorry...for yet another thing that was stol...I'm so sorry...for yet another thing that was stolen from you. Praying His comfort and peace...Kelly @ Sufficient Grace Ministrieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11182310611088290551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-38838602032667320022008-12-05T15:59:00.000-05:002008-12-05T15:59:00.000-05:00How cruel! I don't understand why they would do s...How cruel! I don't understand why they would do such a thing when the death cert serves that purpose. I hope they'll issue you a new one w/o that blemish on it. I'm so sorry. Praying for you.FSDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08589454118258995448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-88426783364816150862008-12-05T15:22:00.000-05:002008-12-05T15:22:00.000-05:00Oh how shocking & upsetting! I hope that you ...Oh how shocking & upsetting! I hope that you can get a different birth cert for sweet Isaac.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-65990805146813573742008-12-05T14:39:00.001-05:002008-12-05T14:39:00.001-05:00I placed an order for some Mary Kay!I am so sorry ...I placed an order for some Mary Kay!<BR/>I am so sorry you had that horrible experience with the birth certificate. ((HUGS))Danielle Holsapplehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09385617879314075054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-77067908548666890262008-12-05T14:39:00.000-05:002008-12-05T14:39:00.000-05:00DEAR STACY AND SPENCER,WE ARE PRAYING FOR YOU GUYS...DEAR STACY AND SPENCER,<BR/>WE ARE PRAYING FOR YOU GUYS. SO SORRY TO HEAR THE NEWS ABOUT THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE THAT SEEMS SO HEARTLESS WE READ YOUR BLOG REGURALY. <BR/>LOVE JANET AND JOLEA ♥<BR/>MAY GOD BE WITH YOU THROUGH THIS HARD POINT IN UR LIFE AND ALWAYSAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-17095101989412248252008-12-05T14:38:00.000-05:002008-12-05T14:38:00.000-05:00Ugh, seeing something like that in writing just cu...Ugh, seeing something like that in writing just cuts even deeper than anyone would think. I would contact the birth certification place and ask for a new one! I am so sorry. Thinking and praying for you each and every day.<BR/>ChristineChristine:)https://www.blogger.com/profile/08122757163158649024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-90242401042450230402008-12-05T14:10:00.000-05:002008-12-05T14:10:00.000-05:00My stomach turning as I read this post is nothing ...My stomach turning as I read this post is nothing compared to how you must be feeling. I am so very sorry. I agree with PP that they can probably send a new birth certificate, but I know that may not comfort you today. Sending love and prayers from San Diego for comfort and peace to fall on you and Spencer.Alhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04214940980060198599noreply@blogger.com