tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post3832295482960191743..comments2023-07-05T03:54:03.268-04:00Comments on He Will Carry Me: An Open Letter to My ObstetricianStacy Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13237198188394672456noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-88434197707752998162019-01-07T01:51:25.042-05:002019-01-07T01:51:25.042-05:00Whatever you have provided for us in these posts r...Whatever you have provided for us in these posts really appreciative. <a href="http://gynecologistnearme.city/" rel="nofollow">Cancer doctor</a><br />Simon Urihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13430154846559123193noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-15802507255612441252014-12-19T22:53:36.114-05:002014-12-19T22:53:36.114-05:00I'm also really surprised that your OB asked t...I'm also really surprised that your OB asked that. I'm pregnant with my first right now and it wasn't planned either. I'm only a few weeks along, but even if I find out this child is going to have problems, I would never abort it. I'm glad that you stuck to your guns and I agree with Amy, that questions should be brought up by the patient, not the doctor. Mom knows what's best. <a href="http://www.uhobgyn.org" rel="nofollow">http://www.uhobgyn.org</a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18431095969067069775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-85268764569892143142013-05-17T17:18:15.416-04:002013-05-17T17:18:15.416-04:00Wow. I cannot believe that! My second pregnancy wa...Wow. I cannot believe that! My second pregnancy was unplanned and my doctor knew I was stressed about the future. But she didn't ask me that. Not even my therapist asked me that! I think you made the right decision!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-37379161990663760162013-04-13T19:00:49.361-04:002013-04-13T19:00:49.361-04:00I have been reading through your blog and catching...I have been reading through your blog and catching up on your story. May I say, you are a woman warrior! God has given you so much strength and wisdom beyond your years!<br />I am utterly shocked that one of your doctors asked you that, after all you have been through and making your beliefs so clear in that practice. But I am filled with awe at your heart and the loving way you handled the situation. <br />I would just like to say one thing in reference to the person who said they thought to ask that question was standard protocol: When my Isaac was barely over 10 weeks old, we found out we were pregnant again with an unplanned pregnancy. See, I was told that I may never be able to get pregnant (at least without the help of fertility treatment) and we had tried for a year and a half before God gave us our little Isaac (without medical intervention). I never thought that a second pregnancy would come so quickly. When I went to my OB to confirm the pregnancy, she entered the room with a huge smile on her face, though I was scared out of my mind, and she said, "Another baby already?! Congratulation!!!" She never once assumed that I wouldn't want the baby, even though the pregnancy wasn't planned. I don't think the question is protocol. I think it just depends on the mindset your doctor has on life. I was very blessed to have that doctor with my son and the beginning of my pregnancy with my Ellyana, but unfortunately for insurance reasons, had to leave her in the middle of the pregnancy and won't be able to go back. I haven't found another doctor that I have loved like her, but I'm sure God has that special person out there. Congratulations on your new baby and may he/she be just as much of a blessing to you as your other children have been! Again, thank you for sharing this blog and God bless you and your family!!!CrystalReflectionshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09270187870805156767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-21746770851137150782013-03-30T01:00:06.400-04:002013-03-30T01:00:06.400-04:00Something similar happened to me- with a doctor wh...Something similar happened to me- with a doctor who was wonderful during my poor prognosis pregnancy. I am sorry that what was once a safe place where you built memories with Isaac, is no longer the haven you thought it was. <br /><br />Prayers as you find a new doctor who will care for this sweet little one and for you too!Sarah St. Ongehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01116679830244890405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-69279019964052343212013-03-27T14:43:29.022-04:002013-03-27T14:43:29.022-04:00I was under the impression that was standard proto...I was under the impression that was standard protocol.<br /><br />congrats on your pregnancy, and best wishes in finding a practice you like better!Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11854891640925870685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-59132365973646609342013-03-23T21:19:30.218-04:002013-03-23T21:19:30.218-04:00Wow....I can't even believe this. Why a docto...Wow....I can't even believe this. Why a doctor would ever be the one to initiate a conversation about ending a pregnancy is beyond me....and especially when this doctor knows your stance. Sometimes I feel like doctors must take on way too many patients or else they have very short memories. I hope you are able to find someone else who will support you in all aspects of this pregnancy!!Sarah E @ theteacherswife.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13483306344673617307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-80682705253760577522013-03-23T19:49:17.351-04:002013-03-23T19:49:17.351-04:00Thanks Megan... I found a good one :)Thanks Megan... I found a good one :)Stacy Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13237198188394672456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-18281476619005809412013-03-22T19:36:02.631-04:002013-03-22T19:36:02.631-04:00I am speechless. Unbelievable. Hugs to you. I am speechless. Unbelievable. Hugs to you. Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10213628589283252225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-52705395503376411802013-03-22T17:06:38.639-04:002013-03-22T17:06:38.639-04:00This breaks my heart. And feel free to email me i...This breaks my heart. And feel free to email me if you want me to put out feelers for an OB in your area - so sad that you were asked that question.Education: Exploring Online Learninghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01081392219158709629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-24577675355059954932013-03-22T15:24:13.366-04:002013-03-22T15:24:13.366-04:00wow. I am so shocked that she would have asked yo...wow. I am so shocked that she would have asked you that for several different reasons but especially because of your history with Isaac. I hope you find a new doctor that will provide you and this new little one with the best care!Sonyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14612376271533554603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-83885883093848794392013-03-22T11:37:47.512-04:002013-03-22T11:37:47.512-04:00I think you're making a good decision. I also...I think you're making a good decision. I also think you are a MUCH classier person than I would be. It would be extremely hard for me to tear into anyone who could be that callous. (((Hugs))) Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00680949781461624795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-178657934065016194.post-89466691256665975522013-03-22T11:14:14.071-04:002013-03-22T11:14:14.071-04:00Sometimes I honestly think OBGYNs are from another...Sometimes I honestly think OBGYNs are from another planet. I'm sorry, after everything, that that question was even on her mind, let alone asked out loud. I wish they would let the patients dictate that conversation (as in, don't bring it up if the patient doesn't), but for some of them, I guess it's just such a natural part of the process, they just assume everyone thinks it's natural. My OBGYN in the first half of my pregnancy with my youngest (who we found out has Down syndrome about halfway through my pregnancy) made terrible remarks like that, saying he was sorry and that he hated when "these things" didn't come out perfectly. And asking if I would have aborted if we found out the info a little sooner. I did exactly what you are doing- switched to an OBGYN that cared a whole bunch more. She gladly accepted me, even though I was around 27 weeks pregnant by the time I saw her... She made it clear that she would be more sensitive with her word and question choices, and she ultimately saved my baby's life because she was hypervigilant when it came to my amniotic fluid, sending me for non-stress tests and ultrasounds frequently, and at one of the NSTs, my baby's heart rate slipped into the 60s for only a couple of seconds, but she wouldn't let that pass by... She ordered another US that revealed my amniotic fluid was gone. She didn't insist I deliver right then and there, but instead followed my birth plan, which I appreciated so much. My little man might not be here today without her. All of that rambling from a complete stranger to say, it's a brave thing you're doing to switch OBGYNs because of your beliefs. I believe you will be blessed for your choice.Amy, queen of the world.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13381286232352589597noreply@blogger.com