Sunday, October 11, 2009

Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day

First, thank you so much for all of your kind words on Isaac's birthday. Your words are such a gift. It was a difficult day for sure... harder than I had anticipated in some ways, but it was good to have a day with Spencer to really sit and reflect on Isaac and how he has deeply impacted each of our lives.

Many of you know that October 15th is designated as Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. While I am saddened that a day like this has a need to exist, I am glad that it does... as remembering our babies can bring so much healing and hope.

I was doing a little research this weekend about this topic and here are some preliminary findings:

-According to emedicine, the overall miscarriage rate is 15-20%. Some physicians believe this percentage may even be higher, as miscarriage can often occur before a woman even knows she is pregnant.

- Approximately 25,000 babies are stillborn each year in the United States, and according to the March of Dimes, about 19,000 babies die within the first month of life (called neonatal death).

- SIDS claims the lives of over 7000 babies each year nationally.

All of this is simply to say that many, many people are affected by miscarriage, stillbirth, and infant loss. And if you are one of those people I want you to know this: your child matters.

So, I would like to do a few things this October 15th.

First, I would like to pray for you. If you are comfortable, please feel free to share as much of or as little of your story in a comment below. And I would like to invite those of you reading to pray for the people who have courageously shared their stories.

Secondly, Sue Mosquera from My Forever Child has generously offered to allow me to hold a giveaway in honor of October 15th. If you aren't familiar with Sue's work, she creates beautiful remembrance jewelry. She has graciously offered to giveaway a Baby Footprints Heart Necklace. By leaving a comment sharing your story, you are automatically entered in the giveaway. Entries for the giveaway will close at 10pm EST on Thursday, October 15th... but you are certainly welcome to continue to leave comments sharing your stories. The winner will be randomly selected and announced by 12 noon EST on Friday, October 16th. Be sure to check out My Forever Child at http://www.myforeverchild.com/ and www.facebook.com/myforeverchild.
Lastly, as the http://www.october15th.com/ site has announced, you are invited to light a candle on October 15th at 7pm in your time zone to create a wave of light in remembrance of the child/children that you have lost, or in honor of someone else who has lost a child thought miscarriage, stillbirth, and infant death.

So, I will start...

My name is Stacy. In the fall of 2007, we lost baby #1 to a miscarriage due to triploidy discovered at 13 weeks. On October 7, 2008, we met our precious son Isaac at 8:33 am. He passed away due to complications from a series of congenital birth defects 16 minutes later. He is deeply, deeply missed.

135 comments:

Holly said...

I am so glad there is a month of awareness and a day where we can all remember the losses of our children.

My name is Holly and I will be lighting a candle for 2 of my children this year. My first baby, Jordan Leigh, was lost to me on December 19, 2002 by my own choice. *I loved you too late sweet angel.* http://haasfamilyblessings.blogspot.com/2009/05/my-testimony.html

My second baby, Carleigh McKenna, was diagnosed with a fatal neural tube defect called anencephaly on December 15, 2009. I carried my daughter to term and she was born still on March 28, 2009. *I thank God He brought me you.* http://carleighmckenna.blogspot.com/2009/05/carleighs-story.html

Marceline said...

My name is Marceline and I will be lighting a candle for my sweet daughter Reagan Joy. She lived for 24 beautiful hours as she was born on February 23, 2009 with Trisomy 18. She died on February 24, 2009 in our arms and surrounded by her family and best friends. We miss her every single day, but praise the Lord for how she changed us.

thetalbotts said...

My name is Shelley, and I have two sweet babies in heaven. My third child, Elliana, was born full term on 8/1/08 and passed away 27 days later due to Trisomy 13. This past January, we had a miscarriage with our fourth child when I was only 5 weeks pregnant. Though my heart aches for them, I am thankful that the Lord allowed us to be their parents because our lives are forever changed by what they have taught us.

Thanks, Stacy, for honoring all of these little miracles!

Julie said...

How special, Stacy! Isaac has such wonderful parents and I pray for all of you daily. Thank you for wanting to pray for all of us and our children.

My name is Julie and I will also be lighting a candle for 2 of my children. On January 15, 2004, I gave birth to our first borh son and only daughter, Devin and Elizabeth, at 22 weeks pregnant. I had a weak cervix and was unable to carry them any longer. My heart aches for them every day. But I feel so blessed to have them.

Praying for all of you...

Sara said...

Although I have not personally experience the pain of infant loss, I have two friends that have experienced the pain of still birth & a friend that lost her 4 month old baby girl to SIDS. I pray for all of the mothers out there that have lost their babies much too soon.

I would like to enter your giveaway to be able to give the necklace to my friend Monica in honor of her baby boy Duncan.

Praying for you, Stacy. *hugs*

Trennia said...

My name is Trennia I miscarried twins in July (12 & 13) of 2001 due to TTT's even though I didn't know the sex of either of them I named them Hunter and Heather.Then May 3, 2008 we loss our baby girl Emily Grace born at 35 weeks and 5 days, she lived for 17 minutes due to congenital defects.That same day I loss my uterus too due to bleeding.
I will love all three of my heavenly babies forever.

Jessica said...

My name is Jessica and I will be lighting two candles. One for the first baby we lost at 8 weeks on July 30, 2007 and a second for our son Jonathan who we lost at 18 weeks due to possible placental abruption, weak cervix and factor V Leiden. Jonathan was born sleeping. I miss both babies all the time and look forward to the day I will be reunited with them forever.

I regularly pray for all moms out there who have lost a baby for healing, peace and hope.

Kerrin said...

My name is Kerrin & we lost our lil girl Ashley due to complications & she arrived stillborn at roughly 35/36 weeks on January 5th this year.
I unfortunatly can't light a candle on the 15th (I'm due to have surgery on the 14th & will be in hospital) but I will be thinking of our angel baby & all the other lil ones that were taken too soon.

Lisa Hendricks said...

My name is Lisa. Our third child Tate Joshua Hendricks was stillborn on May 12, 2008, just 2 weeks before his due date. I was in the hospital with our 2nd child from 24wks-36wks. At 24 wks I dialated to 7cm, due to incompitent cervix. For 10-1/2 weeks God kept her safely inside for her to grow as he intended. She was perfectly healthy when born. When I became preg with Tate, I was scared that something might happen again. The doctors did a cerclage at 13wks and the rest of the preg was great!! I even worked until 32wks. I went to the dr on the 5-8-09, and the appt was perfect, then on MOHTER'S DAY 5-11-09, Tate didnt seem as active, I thought he was just tired, I was. I prayed all nite that all was well, but in my heart I knew it wasnt. I went to the hospital at 6am on May 12. And these words I will never forget, "There is no easy way for me to say this, the baby has passed away." I simply cried and said "I know." Through this horrible thing I have found many things!! I found that God is all I need and that as a family, we are way stronger than I ever thought. I also learned that life is very precious and is to be treasured day by day, minute by minute. I bought candles for my family members and put a copy of one of the poems that I have written about my baby Tate, and they will be lighting them with all of us, for all our babies on Oct. 15th. Love and blessings to all!

Requetta said...

We lost our 3rd child, Tyler Coleman, at 32 weeks on June 11, 2003 due to complications from a cystic hygroma. He was with us for 30 beautiful minutes. While this has definitely been the hardest thing I have been through, I feel it has made me a stronger person. "Tyler, we love and miss you a lot. We can't wait to hold you again!"

Jus and Kat said...

My name is Katrina. 0n June 11, 2008, we welcomed our firstborn son Dylan. He was diagnosed at 20 weeks gestation with Hypoplastic Right Heart Syndrome. At birth, several more defects were diagnosed. Dylan only had 1 kidney and it was in failure; this would ultimately cause the rest of his body to shut down. 6 days after his birth, we said goodbye.

He has touched so many lives, and has vastly changed both his parents.

Kat In Dylan's Memory

Misty Rice said...

Thinking of you.

Leslie said...

My name is Leslie and I lost a baby in April of 2008 at 8 weeks due to an ectopic pregnancy. Although I never got to technically "meet" my child this side of heaven, I still grieve the loss and think about him/her often. I am very thankful that I already had a daughter (Emma June) who was 5 at the time, and that I have since been able to give birth to a beautiful baby girl (Madeline Jade) in March of this year.

Thank you so much for sharing your story. Your faith and strength is a blessing. I pray Isaac continues to make an impact and change the lives of people.

Ang said...

I am praying for you all.

My name is Angela and this year I will be lighting 7 candles, one for each of my sweet angels.

I will only write about my sweet William, as I have had 7 losses total.
At 13 weeks I miscarried, little did we know that I would be putting up the biggest fight of my life just a few weeks later. At 17 weeks, I thought I was having complications from the m/c and went in only to find out that I was actually pregnant for twins and we only lost one.

The next day I went to the Dr. found out that my water was broken and asked what I wanted to do. I told the Dr. that as long as William had a heart beat then I will not give up on him. The Dr. said that is all he needed to hear and the fight for William started.

The goal was to get to 24 weeks and then be in the hospital until I delivered.

I went for a total of 11 weeks with my water broke, every visit to the Dr. was hard because the fluid was lower and lower. I ended up in the hospital one time due to pre term labor at 22 weeks, my Dr. had to come up from the clinic because they were telling me that they were not going to stop the labor and they were going to do nothing for the baby, but my Dr. saved the day, stopped the labor, and I was back home.
On December 12th I went for my check up, they did not check fluid levels. That night I just sat and talked to William, I knew something was different, I said to him that if he was ready to stop the fight that it was okay with me.

On December 13th 2005 at 24 weeks and 2 days before I was to be admitted, I woke up in active labor. At the hospital they could not find William's heartbeat, within 20 minutes I was being told to push, it was the hardest thing I have ever been through.

The hospital staff was wonderful, they took some pictures and I took 24 pictures including one of my daughter holding William. She was proud to be a big sister even though William was born sleeping.

We opted for cremation and he is always with us.

My heart goes out to you all.

Gina said...

My name is Gina, and I will be lighting a candle for my daughter Bryanna. Bryanna was born on February 10, 2009 at exactally 20 weeks. I was admitted into the hospital 2 days prior due to an infection of the placenta. Bryanna was born at 6:53pm and was alive for a hour and 39 mins. Today she should be 3 months and almost 2 weeks and instead we just passed the 8 month mark of her passing away. There's not a day that goes by that I don't think of her and wonder what she would be doing now.

http://bryannassweetsilverlining.blogspot.com/2009/06/bryannas-story.html

Hugs to you Stacy! I will be praying for you guys as well.

Jessica said...

My name is Jessica, and I will be lighting three candles this year. One for my son Chance who was born 7/29/09 and lived 2 hours 26 minutes. We still don't know what went wrong, other than there was a blood clot in the umbilical cord that blocked the flow of oxygen and blood.
The other two candles will be for my best friend who has had two miscarriages in the last year.

Cynthia said...

I will light a candle for the baby that I misacrried on 9/27/06 and for the baby that my sister miscarried 12/98 and the two that my sister-in-law lost.

I am thinking of all those that lost a child.

Miche said...

We will be lighting candles for two sweet angels. The first was our miscarriage in September 2007 at 8 weeks. The second is our sweet Megan Grace who was born June 29th, 2009 only to live for ten minutes before going Home to God.

We love and miss our little girl each day!

Thanks for doing this Stacy!

Kerrie (Kat) Tankersley said...

Thank you for doing this.

My son was born at 21 weeks due to PPROM. I woke up one Sunday morning leaking fluid. The next day, the doctor told me the news was grave. They encouraged me to help my labor along. I wish they'd have just let nature take it's course. I know my son would've been a fighter just like me. He was born September 20, 2006 at 1:49 am and he died at 1:50 am. He was our first child and we've not been fortunate enough to get pregnant again. He would be 3 this year and we wish every day he could be with us.

J said...

My name is Monaei. I am the proud mother of Jacob who passed away at 12 weeks due to Antiphospholipid Antibody Syndrome ( APS). A blood clot lodged in the umbilical cord and caused his death on March 9,2006. I have struggled with grief from his death for three years now while still trying to cope with members of my family who do not understand that my love for my son and the loss that I feel daily are real. I have rebounded from clinical depression to make it my mission to educate others on APS, Pregnancy & Infant loss Rememberance Day, and work through out my community to provide hospitals with information on support groups for parents who have experienced a stillbirth as I was given NO information on any type of support. Dr. Suess said " A person is a person no matter how small". My loss is real and Jacob's life DOES matter..and THAT is why I will light my candle.

jacks grandmom said...

I have read all of these comments and my heart goes out to all of these mom's (and dad's and other family members) who have lost these littlest angels- i can not fathom how you get through these losses (and so many multiple losses)! i think I have taken so much for granted and not realized how difficult it could have been for me when i had my children. Thank you Stacy and Spencer and all of the rest of these moms for making me see that you cannot take having healthy children for granted- it just is not a "given" how very blessed I am.

Marie W said...

My name is Marie and I will be lighting candles for my two sweethearts. Alyssa-Joy was born too early at 19 weeks 6days on November 25th, 2008 due to an incompetent cervix. Her little brother Evan was born July 25th, 2009 at 20 weeks 3 days because of the same reason. They are forever missed and loved.
http://myexpectedend.blogspot.com

April said...

My name is April. I'm 28 years old. We will be lighting candles for our two children who we've lost this year.

My husband and I were surprised with our first pregnancy December 31st, 2008. We were overjoyed. Then the worst happened, I miscarried on January 8th, 2009. We named the baby Annabelle because we knew in our hearts that the baby was a girl.

We pulled ourselves together and tried again.

April 14th I got a positive pregnancy test. We found out we were having a girl, seeing her move and jump on the screen was breathtaking. At 20w I went in for a routine check up and the world crashed to a halt.. there was no heartbeat. I carried my little girl two more weeks and was induced. After 12 hours of labor Grace Ann was born August 27th at 9am. She weighed 4oz and was 6in. She was so tiny she fit in my hand. She was so beautiful and perfect. We held her and was in awe at our little angel. We later found out that she passed away due to a blood clot in her cord.

My heart aches so much for my girls and I pray every day that they will send me a sign to let me know they're ok and they know I love them.

My heart goes out to anyone who knows this type of pain.

Gwennie, Sarah, Bill and Kate! said...

Dear Stacey,

I found your blog through My Forever Child on Facebook. It helps so much to read other's stories. I am so terribly sorry for your loss.... and happy birthday to your darling little Isaac.

My pain is still very raw and fresh. I lost my little boy, Henry James 2 weeks ago. Here is the entry that began my blog in remembrance of him: http://lovinghenry.wordpress.com/2009/10/04/henrys-story/

Thank you for being here and for reaching out to those of us who have lost our precious little ones. I will be thinking of you on October 15th.

All the best,

Sarah

Mrs. H said...

Oh my heart grieves and unites with you ladies that have commented so far...
My name is Mrs. H. I am lighting a candle for 2 babies...
Delivered #1 in 2003 healthy with no complications (blissfully unaware such tragedies occur).
Miscarried #2 at 11 wks in 2006.
Delivered #3 stillborn at 36 wks (no known cause) in 2008.
Pregnant with #4 now, at 34 weeks. Walking in faith and hope that I will get to hold this one in my arms for years to come, but remembering my two sweet ones waiting for me in heaven. Praising God that because of a relationship with Him that reunion is possible.

Hummingbirds mom said...

My name is Betty and I will be lighting a candle in memory of my daughter Isabella Liahanna, born sleeping May 24 2008. She had a heart attack during labor and she is missed deeply by all of us. All of our family and friends will light a candle for her October 15, she changed all our lives forever.

SadMommy3434 said...

My name is Sarah, and I attempt to write a blog that's about my son. Here's the link http://cylasmychal.blogspot.com/

My son Cylas, passed away on January 15, 2008. He had gotten a very BAD infection and had been overloaded on IV fluid. He was here with me for 3 weeks and on October 15th he will be gone for 21 months. I struggle every day to raise my two living children while missing my precious little boy.

I've kept up with your story and I am so very sorry for the loss of Isaac. He's very handsome and lucky to have you as his mom and Spencer has his dad. (Happy Belated Birthday, Isaac!!)

mama2lsa said...

I've lost 3 children. Two were in early pregnancy and the third was my beautiful daughter Sophia, in December of 2005.

The pain has lessened but not a day goes by that I don't miss her!

Jami said...

My name is Jami, I still miss my little ones that I never met. I miscarried my first child at 6 weeks in May 2005. Then, by God's grace, I delivered Chloe Grace in May 2006 and Jacob Ward in October 2007. We miscarried our 4th child at 12.5 weeks on Jan. 5, 2009. Today, I am 28 weeks pregnant with a baby boy. We are due on Jan. 4, 2010. I pray that he will be healthy and strong, but I certainly know it is possible to loose him. I trust in the goodness of God and know that he will sustain me and my family through whatever happens.

Sarah said...

My name is Sarah. My husband and I lost our first baby on April 13, 2008 to a miscarrigage at 9 and a half weeks. We knew in our hearts the baby was a girl and named her Macy Jane.

We are praising the Lord for the safe arrival of our son, Weston James, in July of this year, and yet I still miss Macy so much. Even though we never held her in our arms or saw her face, she is a real baby, and we will never forget her.

Dawn said...

My name is Dawn and I will be lighting a candle on Oct 15th for the baby I miscarried and for my friends nephew who died 7 months ago from SIDS.

He was 11 weeks old and was laid to sleep on is tummy by his daycare provider. He had reflux and was only supposed to sleep on his back in his carseat. We don't know if her actions caused his death or not, but either way it is hard not to wonder if he would still be here if it were not for the actions of this lady.

I ask for the necklace entry to go towards her Andrew rather than the baby I lost. She is having a very difficult time with his loss and to make matters worse had a miscarriage as well about 6 weeks ago to.

Jennifer said...

We lost our little one on September 15, 2008 when I was 6 weeks pregnant. I was devastated..but God has seen us through and brought new life. Ruth Leah was born in July and we are so thankful for the blessing he gave us.

Shawndell said...

I will be lighting 3 candles this year in honor of my brother who was full term, James Elliot, born sleeping on Aug. 18, 1971 and the other 2 for my best friend. Her first born son, Samuel Robert, was a full term baby born sleeping on Dec. 14, 2004. And this past July, she lost her first daughter, Ruby Sue, a full term baby born still. Both cord accidents.

Thank you to My Forever Child for remembering all of these beautiful angels!!

Trisha Larson said...

My name is Trisha and my sweet Nate Ryan was born on March 5, 2008 and died 25 days later. He was born with a heart defect and underwent open heart surgery at 5 days. He fought hard and the day before he was suppossed to come home, he unexpectly went code blue in my arms. The hospital was not equipped to handle it and he died due to their errors. Nate was our 5th child and our family misses him terribly. The last 18 months have been so incredibly difficult. We can see how God is changing us for the better but our world has been turned upside down.

I pray for everyone that has to endure this type of pain. It's so hard. Hugs to all of you!

Trisha

Graves said...

I am so glad to see how everybodies babys are being recognized!

My name is Mary and I will be lighting my candle in memory of my first child. Her name is Hayden Mckenzie born sleeping May 16, 2008 at 9:50am. We lost Hayden due to Trisomy 18 and we miss her so much! But I am so thankful for getting to have her as my daughter and she has changed my life!!!

Cecilia said...

My name is Cecilia and I will be lighting a candle for my son, Ethan McKinley. Ethan was born still April 28, 2009 due to complications of preeclampsia and HELLP syndome. We can't wait to see him again in Heaven!

Megan said...

My name is Megan and I miscarried in Feb. 2009. I don't want to go into details, but it has been a painful journey as you all know. I thank all of you for sharing and will say a special prayer on Thursday.

Thank you Stacy for leading the way and encouraging us to reach out!

House of Brodt said...

My name is Charlotte and I will be lighting a candle for our precious little baby boy that we lost due to a miscarriage in early January of this year. I was almost 16 weeks pregnant when we lost the baby most likely due to Trisomy 18 based on findings. He is now in Heaven looking over myself, my husband and his big brother and soon, his new baby brother that is due in just 8 short weeks. We miss him terribly, but know that he is with God and we will see him again someday.

Thank you for posting about this day of remembrance and I will be thinking of you too and sending lots of prayers for strength your way as well.

Sara said...

My name is Sara. I lost my firstborn, Samuel, in November 2007 due to severe prematurity. He lived for 5 days before going to be with Jesus.
Samuel, I miss you and think of you every single day.

Anonymous said...

My name is Jill and I will be lighting a candle for my Little Angel Man, Noah. He was born an angel on August 21, 2009. He had Multicystic Dysplastic Kidneys and was 27 weeks gestation. I miss my angel so much and am now struggling with if to try again or not. I, simply put, want Noah in my arms.

Kate said...

My name is Katie, I had a placental abruption at 21 weeks and delivered our firstborn son Grayden on February 29, 2008. He went to be with Jesus 3 minutes later. We miss him everyday.

Julie said...

My name is Julie and i'm going to be lighting a candle for our angel Wyatt Conway. Our angel was born alseep on April 25, 2008. I was 30.5 weeks when we found out he was gone. We still don't know why but are trusting that God will carries us through. He is loved and thought of everyday. I hope everyone finds some peace on Oct. 15.

bayleesmommy07 said...

I lost my baby boy at 18 weeks into my pregnancy, his name is Adrian, I will be lighting a candle for my little boy this year. may he know how much he was loved by me & by my parents and sisters for not a day goes by that we arent thinking of him.


I am so glad that we have something to share in our loss of all our babies each year, to make our grief, our love for our babies known. It is hard to get by when it is hardly talked about the rest of the year.

Tim and Jennifer said...

My name is Jennifer and I will be lighting 3 candles.
I lost twins at 12 weeks from a partial molar pregnancy. We had to wait and 6 months to get pregnant.
We were blessed to get pregnant again, but again conceived twins. We lost one twin at 6 weeks, but my sweet baby girl is now 10 months old. I have a 3 year old son as well, but these babies that were lost all took a piece of my heart with them. I praise God for his healing, but still find myself asking, "what if...?" Loss is loss no matter what you gain after it. Praying for you Stacy, thanks for helping us all remember these little lives that our Creator made.

Keisha said...

My name is Keisha. I lost My 4th baby Kyndall, in March,2009 at 5 weeks 4 days. I was devastated.

I wanted to get pregnant again right away. In May we found out baby Kaiden was on her way she was due Jan 22, 2010. Around 13 weeks I started bleeding, I was put on complete bed rest. After many visits to the e.r. I was told my water had broken. I was put in the hospital at 21 weeks. They told me to make it to 24 and I would transferred to a o.b. complications hospital where Kaiden could get the best care. So, Kaiden and I Stayed in the hospital for 3 weeks. Kaiden's heart beat remained strong. She was a fighter! On Oct. 2, 2009 at 23 weeks and 6 days I went into labor. Time was of the essence, I was prepped for a c-section at the last minute 2 doctors decided it would be best to transfer us to the other hospital. I heard her heart beating right before they moved me. We never made it to the ambulance. My water broke in the hall and it took 1 push for Kaiden to come. Her umbilical cord had wrapped around her neck 4 times. I will never know if Kaiden could have survived on her own, the doctor's decision to wait cost Kaiden her life.

We buried our precious baby last week on Oct. 7, 2009. I look forward to the day Kaiden and Kyndall will be with us. I pray to God for strength and look forward to his promise... John 5:28 Do not marvel at this, because the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice 29 and come out, those who did good things to a resurrection of life...

Love you both Mommy, Daddy, your brother Keegan and sister's Kamryn and Kyler.

Laura said...

My name is Laura and I will be remembering my sister who was born during my mother's second trimester at home. She was not alive when she was born. My mother always said that in the early 80's there was NO support and that the words "spontanious abortion" were tossed around so casually and those words stung her like nothing else.
I often think of my sister and truly believe she watches over me (and laughs!)

Jen said...

My name is Jennifer. I will be lighting two candles in honor of our precious angels, Emily Faith and Erika Hope, that were stillborn at 27 weeks due to complications from Twin to Twin Transfusion Syndrome. Words cannot describe the pain asociated with their loss. It has been 9 years and 3 healthy babies later and I still feel the pain and heartache as if I lost them just yesterday. Praying for all of you as you remember your little angels. Thank you, Stacy, for giving us this opportunity to share.

mrsdanigirl8 said...

My name is Danielle and I had a loss at 8 weeks. It was my first pregnancy and I felt as if an innocence was taken away from me with the loss of our little one.

We now have a beautiful 7 1/2 month old but I still often think of the baby we lost.

Anonymous said...

Hi,
We have lost three children, two due to miscarriages and most recently our son ^Alex^ he was born the 2nd April 2009, he lived for 15 minutes, ^Alex^ had anencephaly. It's good to have an offical day to remember our little ones.
Thank you Natalie
clanmurdoch@bigpond.com

Donna said...

Stacy, My name is Donna and I'm a proud grandmother to Abigail Lee, born healthy with no complications in 2006. My daughter-in-law had Miscarriage #1 in 2005 before Abigail and then Miscarriages #2 and #3 both this year. She is now almost 8 weeks along with her 5th baby and we pray for God's blessing in giving us another beautiful healthy child. Thank you for sharing your story and I plan on lighting 3 candles for our three precious angels in Heaven on October 15. My heart goes out to all those who have lost these precious little ones. I so look forward to meeting my three other grandbabies when I get to Heaven.

Megan said...

Hi! I'm Megan. I had an early, natural miscarriage at 7 weeks but it doesn't make my baby "Blueberry" any less important to me. I miscarried on Easter 2009. I will be lighting my candle in honor.

lindsay said...

I'm Lindsay. I will be lighting a candle for my second daughter Zoe. She died due to complications from a hidden placental abrubtion. She was here for 19 days and then I held her as she went to her 'real' home. In five days, it will be two years since I saw her last...

Anonymous said...

My name is Amber. My heart breaks reading everyone's story. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

On 10/15/08 we went in for our 1st ultrasound and dr could not find a heartbeat. I will always remember my first baby.

gnet said...

My name is Jeannette and my husband and I had a miscarriage earlier this month.

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Connie's Confessions said...

My name is Connie and God blessed me with a beautiful son, Peyton who is now 21 months old. We however lost our second sweet baby due to miscarriage at 6 weeks last two weeks ago. We are saddened by this loss because we know what a blessing children are. We are hoping that if it is God's will, he will see us through our next attempt.

Thanks Stacy for sharing your wonderful baby Isaac with us.

JamieW said...

Thank you for doing this.

We will light 3 candles. 2 for our children that we lost in the first trimester (11 weeks and 7 weeks) in 2007 and one for our son that was born sleeping on August 20, 2009. I was 38 weeks when he died and he was perfectly healthy.

Cissi64 said...

My name is CLarissa. Our story is long and full of joy and pain. We were told in 1995 we woudln't be able to have children without major medical intervention which we couldn't afford at the time. We chose to explore adoption and eventually became foster parents and adopted our first three foster children in 1999. (through the grace of God because it wasn't an easy process) in the early Dec. 04 I came down with what we thought was the flu. It wasn't and our youngest daughter was born in July 05, one week before my 41st birthday. Since then, we have suffered four early losses. (Jan 08, May 08, Feb 09, and Sep 09.
Stacy, thank you so much for setting this up. Thank you also for your promise of prayers.
And please, everyine out there , pray for all who have lost are and grieving. The promise of a reunion isi n Heaven is great but it is till ahrd to get through the days here on Earth.

Sarah said...

Thanks for doing this, Stacy. You know our story, but I'll post for others.

My name is Sarah. We met our beautiful firstborn son, Andrew Ryan, on August 7, 2009. He was delivered stillborn, after we found out 2 days earlier that his heart was no longer beating. It was likely an umbilical cord accident. My heart still hearts from his absence, but we look forward to being reunited in heaven.

Jeff & Leza Strayer said...

My name is Leza. I will light many candles on October 15 in rememberance of my 5 babies in heaven. My husband and I were surprised with each pregnancy and each time felt great disappointment when each were lost only days after seeing their heartbeats. I do not have pictures, a lock of hair, a blanket from the hospital, or even footprints that I can touch and be reminded of the day we met our beautiful babies, because those days never come for us. Time after time we have to say goodbye before we really even say hello. My babies will never be forgotten and neither will the millions of other beautiful babies who are in Heaven now.

Praying for all of you this week. May God bless each home with laughter and children. May hearts be filled again with joy and peace. May lives be fulfilled with happiness and love!

I love you all my fellow moms.

amanda z said...

My name is Amanda and my first child, Addison Lee was stillborn on March 21, 2007 due to complications associated with Factor V Leiden and MTHFR. She was a beautiful baby and I treasue the photos we have of her. I also light candle to remember my next 2 pregnancies that ended in miscarriages.

Please check out www.Nationalshare.org for information on walks to remember this month. Another wonderful way to honor our little angels.

Carly K. said...

I'm Carly and in January 2008 I lost my first child to prematurity due to severe preeclampsia at 26 weeks. My sweet son Will was in the NICU for 10 days and he fought so hard. We miss and love him so much. About a year later I lost my second pregnancy due to miscarriage. I'm now very cautiously expecting again.

Stacy, This was such a nice idea, glad we can all "meet" here and share our little ones w/ each other.

jen said...

My name is Jen and I will be lighting a candle for 3 of my children. We lost our first child due to an early miscarriage on February 18, 2003. Our son, Logan, was born at 31 weeks on April 7, 2004. He died 30 minutes after he was born due to a rare respiratory disorder in which his trachea never developed. What a precious 30 minutes that was for us! Our third also passed due to an early miscarriage on October 10, 2005. We still miss all our babies so much and know that they are watching down on their little sisters, Bella and Bree, who are here on earth with us.
Thank you, Stacy, for continuing to be such a source of strength and inspiration for others.

Tara said...

My name is Tara and I will be lighting a candle for my baby lost in June 09 at 13 weeks.

She joins my husbands daughter whom he lost (with his ex wife) in 02. She was born at 21 weeks and had multiple complications. He was able to hold her in his hand for a few minutes before she passed.

I can only imagine the pain of losing more than one. It was horrible going through what we did in June and I don't know that I will try again. I do have 3 healthy babies at home!

Jenn said...

My name is Jennifer, and we lost our 2nd child at 10 weeks gestation to a missed miscarriage. We named him Jordan Lynn, and not a day goes by when I don't think about him. It has been 4 years next month since we said goodbye. I am very blessed by my two beautiful daughters who I have the privilege of mothering every day.

sarah louise said...

My heart goes out to anyone who has experienced the loss of a child.

On October 20,2008 at 11 weeks pregnant we went in for our first ultrasound and found out we had lost the baby. Exactly 4 months later on Feburary 20, 2009 we went in for our first ultrasound at 9 weeks and there was no heartbeat. My heart aches for these two babies that I will never know on this earth.

Carrie said...

My name is Carrie. I am the mom of two healthy boys. I found out I was pregnant with our third baby in July. I was very estatic to be given the opportunity to have another baby after my husband had cancer. At our 12 week appointment everything was great. The baby looked good, the heartbeat was strong, a very normal pregnancy. I woke up on a Tuesday morning (the day before my next checkup) and sensed that something wasn't right, so I called the doctor and I went in to make sure everything was fine. However, I guess my intuition was right, he couldn't find a heartbeat. Our little girl Morgan had passed away. I was 16/17 weeks pregnant. I was able to hold Morgan in my arms after delivery. I only shared a few moments with her, but she has impacted my life forever. Our doctor said she had a heart defect. I have been devastated by our loss. I grieve everyday for her and the pain in my heart is some days unbearable. I find comfort in knowing she is in heaven with my grandparents who I know are taking good care of her. She also has a couple of buddies to play with in heaven, Isac and Logan who left their mommy's too soon as well.

Lizaveta said...

Thank you for posting about this. I was surprised and grateful to see that there is a special time to remember the loss of babies. I will be lighting a candle as well on Thursday.

My name is Liz, and after waiting a year and a half to get pregnant, we had our first miscarriage at 7 1/2 weeks this past February. We named our unknown little one Faith Hope, but usually refer to her as Hopie.

Lizaveta said...

Thank you for posting about this. I was surprised and grateful to see that there is a special time to remember the loss of babies. I will be lighting a candle as well on Thursday.

My name is Liz, and after waiting a year and a half to get pregnant, we had our first miscarriage at 7 1/2 weeks this past February. We named our unknown little one Faith Hope, but usually refer to her as Hopie.

Kristin (kekis) said...

Hi Stacy, it's Kristin. I'm the mother of three angel babies lost in April 2007, August 2007, and March 2008. I will be lighting my candle again this year in remembrance of all of our babies. Although the 15th is the one day the world is asked to remember our children, those of us who have loved and lost remember them every single day. While our arms are empty, our hearts ache, we can pray that God will continue to carry us through it all.

The Radke's said...

This is the first time that I have ever heard of this day, and it brings me to tears and also gives me a day that I can set aside and remember. I will be lighting 5 candles. The first is for Anna our daughter who was still born on April 9, 2005. She died inutero due to an enlarged heart. I still long to hold her again, and can't wait till I can when I reach heaven. The next 3 are for subsequent miscarriages that we have had. And finally the fourth is for a friends baby who died after 28 days due to Trisomy 13. All of these children that I know and have read about are loved and missed. My hearts aches for all of those who are missing them. Remember, God is soveriegn and he is holding them for us and loving them as we never could.

Stacy said...

My life was changed forever on March 14, 2008. Our son, McCrae, was stillborn at 32 weeks. After many years of infertility issues and trying to have a family, he was our first born son. We miss him everyday and are now hoping and praying to add to our family through adoption.

Wishing all the mothers, fathers, and families HOPE and PEACE through their journeys of remembrance for all our angels.

Abbie said...

My name is Abbie and I have two babies in heaven, Max and Olivia, who we lost last December and then this past May (both miscarriages). We're anxiously waiting for a baby that God will let us keep on earth.

Sara said...

My name is Sara and I had a missed miscarriage at 8 weeks after trying for 2 years. Up until then, the thought of having a miscarriage had never entered my mind. I was very open about my loss and could not believe the number of friends who had miscarriages. My daughter was born on October 15 of last year - a message from heaven from her sibling.

Anonymous said...

My name is Allison and I will be lighting three candles for our three lost little ones this year. My first miscarriage happened just shy of five weeks, my second miscarriage was my son's twin also at about five weeks, and this past Spring my third miscarriage happened around 4 weeks.

I pray for each and every person who has felt the pain of miscarriage and infant loss.

Thank you Stacy for educating everyone about this important day. I pray for you and Spencer often and know that Isaac is watching over you both.

Leah said...

I will be lighting a candle in remembrance of my 2 angels in heaven...both lost through miscarriages this year. I also remember the 2 babies in heaven that my sister-in-law lost through miscarriages before giving birth to my wonderful nephew.

Brie said...

My name is Brie and October 15th we will be lighting a candle in rememberance of 3 of our angels. Our 2nd child was lost to a miscarriage at 12 weeks. Our 3rd and 4th we our twin daughters, Allison and Emily. I experienced complications at 17 weeks when my water broke with Allison. I remained on bedrest for 9 weeks, 3 of which we spent in the hospital. On Nov. 3rd 2009 I gave birth to my 2 precious angels. Allison lived for 3 short, but wonderful, hours. We got to spend 8 amazing days with our daughter Emily in the NICU, and on Nov. 11 2009, she passed away due to complications of her prematurity. I miss my baby girls everyday. But have learned more from them than anyone. They are loved very much by their Mommy, Daddy, and big brother. I will be thinking of them and everyone who has been through such a tragedy on this day.

Erika said...

My name is Erika and I will be lighting a candle for my angel baby that left us to be with Jesus March 6th 2009 at 6 weeks along. I found out I was pregnant Feb.13th, my late grandma's birthday. My grandma passed away last November unexpectedly. The loss was devastating. To this day I don't think I have dealt with it. My baby was due October 23rd, next Friday. Words can never describe the loss and time will never heal this hurt. Thank you for this site and for sharing your story, all of you ladies are very strong and you are all in my prayers. I light a candle in memory of all of our babies gone too soon.

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Jen said...

how incredibly heart breaking that there are so many suffering this loss..it is truly mind-numbing..

My name is Jen and I will be lighting a candle for my daughter Isabella.. She was born completely healthy, and continued to be so..until she was 4 months old.. she fought her brave battle until she was 8months and 29 days old.. she was our warrior princess.. we love her and miss her so much I just can't even stand it.. I draw comfort in knowing that she gets to skip this life and is waiting for us in Heaven.. who wouldn't want that right? anyhow..thank you for sharing your story.. praying for you and all of the other baby lost mom's...

Laura said...

I have not suffered the loss of a child, a sibling, not even a parent, but I am in awe of the sheer number of people who are responding to this blog...and I am weeping for all of you.
Can't imagine what you have dealt with in terms of loss. Just so very sorry that any precious, little one is lost to us. God bless you all and heal your wounds.

Laura McCann
www.imaginedcontrol.blogspot.com

Hilary said...

My name is Hilary and I lost our second baby due to miscarriage at 10 weeks in the end of February 2008. I delivered healthy twin boys later that year in December, but often think about the one that got away. I'm so in love with my 3 boys...we'll light a candle tomorrow for their sibling in Heaven.

Lauren said...

My name is Lauren. On February 8th, 2008 I discovered I was pregnant with what would have been our second child. Two weeks later, I started to miscarry. I watched my tiny baby's heart beat too slowly on the sonogram screen for just a few seconds. Those seconds passed by far too quickly.
A week after my ultrasound, my baby was gone. She would have been due on October 13th, three days before our wedding anniversary. I was not able to find out the sex, but I know in my heart that my baby was a girl. I named her Opal, after what would have been her birthstone.

I am so thankful for October 15th every year. It gives me a day to remember my angel knowing that other mothers around the world are doing the same.

I'm praying for all the mothers who are sharing their stories.

mandie lane said...

Hi Stacy. Thanks for the PSA about this very important day. Our angel babies were both lost in 2007, one (TurkeyBaby) due November 07 and the other (Grover) due April 08. Though I've been abundantly blessed with our 13 month old son and a pregnancy of 21 weeks that's going very well so far- those were our first children and they're never forgotten.

Anonymous said...

Thank you for doing this. We lost 2 babies in 2008. One at 6 weeks, and another at 10 weeks due to Trisomy 13. We are now blessed with a beautiful daughter, but miss our angel babies every day.

Kiki said...

My name is Christine and I've lost 4 pregnancies very early on. We started trying for a family in August 2007. A year later we had our first positive home pregnancy test. We lost the pregnancy just a few days later. After many tests and lots of poking and prodding, we were diagnosed with unexplained infertility. Over the course of the last year we've endured countless fertility treatments. I've had 4 surgeries to date and have another one scheduled for the end of the month. Since starting fertility treatments, we lost a pregnancy over Christmas in 2008, another in April 2009 and another in June 2009. Our hearts are broken and we're not sure where to go from here. We are clinging to the hope that we will someday achieve our dream of being parents. Your strength inspires me.

Amy McFarland said...

Thank you for posting this. I will like a candle on the 15th for my first baby who I lost in September 2000. It has been 9 years, but sometimes the pain is so raw. We have been truly blessed with 3 children since our loss; however, not a day goes by without thoughts to my baby in heaven.

Stacy, your babies will be in my prayers. Thank you for sharing with us. Your photographs are beautiful - what a beautiful, precious boy. He has touched the world. May God bless you and hold you in the palm of His hand.

Anonymous said...

Hi my name is Stacey and I will be lighting 2 candles for miscarriages I had in 2008. My first miscarriage was at 12 weeks and my second at 5 weeks. Dealing with my losses has been one of the heardest things I've ever dealt with in my life. I know that bad things happen in this life because we live in a fallen world and I'm so thankful that we have heaven to look forward to so we can see our loved ones again. Thank you lord for easing our pain and giving us hope for the future.

The Mom said...

Hi Stacy,

As I sit here with my son kissing my pregnant belly, I have tears streaming down my face for the two babies we lost last year.

I lost a baby at 6 weeks in April 2008 and another at 6 weeks in September. No answers were given, and I was told it was probably a fluke. After some investigation the circumstances of my miscarriages led me to believe it was due to breastfeeding/hormonal complications. After 2 years, I weaned DS and got pregnant with what appears to be a healthy LO.

Even though things are looking up, I am having a hard time this month remembering my angels.

Jenn
www.thebabybloak.com

Once A Mother said...

My name is Kristin, I have been pregnant twice, but have no living children. My first pregnancy was lost early to miscarriage. My second brought me my daughter Peyton, and it is for Peyton that I will be lighting a candle tomorrow.

Peyton Elizabeth was taken from us by Infant Leukemia at 28 days old. My pregnancy with Peyton was perfect, and it wasn't until after she was born that we even knew she was sick. The odds of her type of cancer are 1 in 50 Million. I miss Peyton every moment of every day. My life will never be the same.

http://onceamother.blogspot.com is where I write about my journey through loss.

Thank you so much for allowing us to share our stories and to pray together.

Samantha said...

I was planning to honor my 3 babies all lost to miscarriages this 15th while pregnant for the 5th time. I had no idea that earlier this week during an ultrasound that we wouldn't find a heartbeat. Now tomorrow, Oct. 15th, I have my D&C. It was so hard to go out today and buy 4 candles to burn for all 4 of my angels. I am blessed with my daughter, Abbi, who is 3 years old now. At the time I had her, I had no idea that she is my miracle baby. I see her different now. Thank you again for making a special day for my babies and for everyone else who has gone through miscarriage/pregnancy loss/infant death. God Bless.

Susie said...

I will be lighting a candle for my beautiful son, Destin Jacob Blevins, who has a living and healthy twin brother.
Destin was almost four months old when he passed away in the NICU from an infection. I am so proud of his strong spirit, and every moment we had with him was truly a blessing.
I will also light a candle for one of my dear friend's 2 little boys, born still.
And Kerrin, I will light a candle for your beautiful daughter since you will be unable to.
Please visit Destin's web page at: http://www.destin-blevins.virtual-memorials.com, and please sign his guest book.

Sarah said...

92 hurting families- and yet this is only such a small fraction of the numbers every year.

Hi Stacy- I'm Sarah.
My son Caleb was born in August 2007- pregnancy and birth complication free.
Our second baby- which I always felt was a girl- miscarried in November 2008. I wanted to get pregnant again as soon as possible.
We found out we were expecting twins in Jan 2009. 20 wks later we found out they suffered from TTTS.
We endured laser surgery and thought we had leapt the biggest hurdle, only to lose them 3.5 wks later.

I am hoping God blesses us with other children in the future, but I am no longer naive about pregnancy and birth.

Thankful for a day where everyone can recognise our sweet little angels.

thanks Stacy xx

Angie said...

My name is Angie and I will be lighting a candle for my sweet baby Samuel Joseph whom we lost July 9,2002. We aren't sure what happened. I had been to the doctor a week before and had a strong heartbeat then at our next visit as my seven year old daughter looked anxiously at the sonogram expectantly, silence filled the room and my heart sank as I braced myself when the doctor gave the news our baby was gone. I had to go in for a D & C. I know that my sweet angel was delivered into the arms of the Great Physician that day and that we will be reunited but my heart yearns to see his face and kiss his cheek.
I pray for all that have opened their hearts and left their stories May God's peace cover you all on October 15 as we light our candles TOGETHER. I will forever be changed by the life of my precious baby. God Bless!

Anonymous said...

Hi,my nam is Margaret and i am a mum to two butiful angels,my first angel was born on th 1st december 2005,he was one of twins,they were both born at 29.5 weeks,my angel Daniel was born with genetic disorder and also a servere diaphramatic hernia,plus various other problems,he only stayed with me for 1hr 43 mins and then passed over to the angel kingdom,my second angel i miscarried at 9 weeks on 24th May 2006,i miss my angels so much and think about them every day.My thoughts are with all the other angel mummys out there.xxxx

RW-NJ-ME Mom said...

My name is Cheryl and I will be lighting a candle for my beautiful daughter, Megan Elizabeth. I carried her with love for 33 weeks and she was born an angel on April 16, 2009. Forever in my heart and soul...missing and loving you Megan. Mommy, Daddy, and big brothers Ryan and Nathan

Rebecca said...

This is such a special day. My name is Rebecca and I will be lighting a candle for my daughter Trinadee and all the other angel babies. Trinadee was diagnosed with Anencephaly at 14 weeks. She was born September 15, 2009 at 37 weeks and lived for a precious 26 minutes. Today is also her one month anniversary.

Kathryn @ Expectant Hearts said...

I will be lighting a candle for Seth. Our 4th child, he was born March 27, 2008 with Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome. Just this week, we passed the one year mark of Seth being in Heaven. he is missed every day.

Jodi said...

Hello. My name is Jodi and I lost one of my identical twin boys. At 25 weeks, 2 days I delivered my boys via emergency c-section. 3 days later we made the very difficult decision to remove brendan from life support due to a grade 4 brain bleed, perforated lungs, and a failing heart. His twin, Leo, is 1.5 yrs old and is doing unbelievably well for a 25 weeker. I will light a candle for him as well as the many friedns I know who have had a loss of a singleton and a twin.

Sonya said...

Thinking and praying for you and Spencer today.

Barbara B said...

I will be lighting a candle for our precious daughter, Elizabeth Ann Babe, who Grew wings on December 17, 2003 due to a miscarriage at 14 weeks. Thank you so much for letting us share our stories.

Traci Michele said...

Stacy,

Will you help this sweet mama?

http://ordinaryinspirations.blogspot.com/2009/10/coincidence-i-dont-thing-so.html

Hugs,
Traci

ForeverElliot'sMommy said...

My son, Russell Elliot Miller was born on August 10, 2009 at 23 weeks and 2 day gestationally. He fought a long battle at Children's NICU in Columbus. He had two bowel surgeries, surgey on his femeral artery and a shunt put in his brain, all in the 24 short days he was alive. I will light a candle for my lil man tonight so that he may see that even though I am devistated now, he lights up my life and will forever.
And for all the other mothers who recognize this day, I will be praying for you and your angels. So that we may all have the strenght to continue and meet our angels again one day!
Much love,
Brandy

MrsXistins said...

I am so sorry for the loss of your baby. I will be lighting a candle today for you. My son Ross passed away during the over 20 hours of labor I had. I was 6 months pregnant. If you ever need to talk, please feel free to email me
asouth@xistins.com

Anonymous said...

I am posting this in memory of my oldest child, Christopher Michael Sanders, who died in April, 1975. Not a days goes by that I do not think of him. After his tragic death, we lost 5 other children,, one lived 20 minutes, one lived one hour, and three were stillborn. I am so thankful for our daughter, Allison, who turns 29 today. Goodbye my sweet babies, I hold you close to my heart.

Blessings,
Sharon Oels Martyn
sharonmartyn@yahoo.com

Kristin Stauffer said...

You know my story.

We lost our little baby boy in an early miscarriage at the end of May 2008 due to trisomy 16. We have been blessed to find out at my one year appt that the baby was a boy and there is some peace in knowing that.

We have been trying ever since to have another baby but with no success story yet. Its comforting some days to know that our babies are all in heaven singing to Jesus and with no ailments.

Anonymous said...

My name is Mona and I will be lighting a candle for my 2 beautiful sons, Konnor and Korey. They were born June 10, 2009 at 24 weeks gestation and died a few hours later due to complications related to prematurity. Not a moment goes by that I don't think about them. I am here trying to be strong for their 3 big brothers. My sweet precious babies, i miss you.

Anonymous said...

My name is April and I will be lighthing a candle today for baby boy Angel born asleep at 18 weeks.
Until today we do not have a medical reason for his dead, but I know we will meet one day and we will be together once again.

Lesley said...

My name is Lesley and we lost our first born, a son named William Andrew, on April 6, 2009 at 23 weeks.

We had a routine doctor's appointment that morning and when our OB tried to listen for his heartbeat she couldn't find one. An ultrasound confirmed that he had passed. We were sent to the hospital and I was induced. When I delivered him later that evening our OB explained that we lost our son due to a cord accident - the cord was coiled like a telephone cord, which cut off circulation - which is extremely rare, unpreventable and occurs without warning. We had been in for our big ultrasound two weeks before and the technician even said that everything looked "perfect".

I will be forever grateful that my husband and I, as well as our parents, got to meet Will and spend time holding him - even if it was for a short moment in time.

Six months later we are still trying to adjust to our new "normal". We miss him every single day, but look forward to the day we will see him again in Heaven.

Katie said...

Thinking of you and your sweet son Isaac today.

Also thinking about all of you Mamas who have lost your children. You're in my heart and my prayers today.

Susan said...

I lost my second baby last September when I was 13 weeks long. The Lord blessed us a few months later with another baby. On September 1, 2009 Nathan was born but he had already entered the Lord's presence. Nathan's life has trully been a gift and blessing for us. We are thankful that the Lord gave him to us for those 37 weeks, that we were able to know he was a boy, we were able to see him how much he looks like his older brother, and we were able to hold for a short time. We miss him incrdibuly and every day I wish my little baby was still with me, but we are learning how good God is. (We have know idea why he his heart stopped other than that was the Lord's purpose for his life.)

Kelly said...

My name is Kelly and tonight I will be lighting a candle for the baby I lost at 12 weeks in February 2007, as well as all the babies gone too soon. There are many angels near us today.

Anonymous said...

I've lost two babies. One at 12 weeks on Aug. 16, 2006 and the second at 8 weeks on Dec. 26, 2006. The Lord has blessed us with a healthy, almost two year old son and I am currently 13 weeks pregnant. I miss my angels but know that we wouldn't have our amazing son we have if our angels weren't with God. The experience has also made me able to comfort and be there for friends who have lost babies as well. I feel it is my calling in life to help those going through this experience. I pray each of you find peace and love. Becky H. Hamilton, OH

Shelley said...

I am so sorry for your loss. It hurts so bad to have a baby in heaven yet so comforting to know they are always around you.
I lost my baby boy January 8, 2009 due to a cord accident. There was no warning. I just noticed he had not moved for a few days and just figured it was because there wasn't much room for him. I was 39 weeks pregnant. He was full term. It was a nightmere I couldn't wake up from. I will be lighting a candle in memory of my beautiful baby boy and all of the other babies of the wonderful mom's I have met in support groups for the past 9 months.
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Hugs,
Shelley
xoxoshells.webs.com (a site in memory of my son)

Lisa Yeagle said...

Stacy,
What a wonderful website you have made in memory of your son Isaac. He is beautiful. I will have my candle lit for him and for all the Angels lost too soon. My candles will also be lit for my 6 Baby Angels that I lost due to miscarriage.

Baby Angel 6 weeks May 28,2002
Baby Angel 6 weeks May 3,2004
Baby Angel 4 weeks November 24,2004
Baby Angel Girl 9 weeks July 7,2005
Baby Angel 6 weeks January 20,2007
Baby Angel 9 weeks October 13,2008

May they always be remembered. Thankyou for praying for our Angels.
Hugs and Prayers to you,
Lisa yeagle

Shannon said...

My sweet Hayden Grace passed away almost three years ago on December 15, 2006. She would have been fours years old on September 17. She was a very sick little girl with a bright smile and long eye lashes. She is and will always be my angel.

Shannon

Anonymous said...

My name is Lynne. I will be lighting 3 candles tonight. We lost our first baby on May 20, 2006 when I was 6 weeks pregnant. It took 3 years to get pregnant again and we lost our second baby on May 21, 2009 due to a missing marker on chromosome 7, at 9 weeks. We just lost our third baby, again at 9 weeks along, on September 24.

Jeni V said...

Thank you so much for doing this and allowing mothers and fathers to have a place to share their story.

My name is Jeni and my daughter Kenley Faith was stillborn November 21, 2008. She was found to not have a heartbeat at my 24 week check up on November 20 and was delivered November 21. There was no reason given for her death.

I began reading your blog the day Isaac was born and returned to be with his Heavenly Father. At the time I was pregnant and I remembered thinking about how I could not imagine losing a child in the manner in which you did. Not even 6 weeks later I was in a similar position as you.

I have never left a comment, but I have thought about you and your husband consistently since reading your blog that day. I am so sorry for your loss and for the loss of children all over our world, but I am thankful in knowing that all of us mothers will have the opportunity to raise our babies again :)

Cort said...

My name is Cortney and I will be lighting a candle for our sweet precious son, Matthew Phillip. He was born prematurely at 28 weeks on January 6, 2009. He went to be with the Lord on January 11, 2009. We are not sure why he was born early and he was not born with any known birth defects. My sweet angel was needed more in heaven. We miss Matthew very much but are so thankful that his life has and continues to impact so many people for Christ. http://cortandken.blogspot.com

Barraza Family said...

Hi my name is Lindsey. I will be remembering my son Greyson today. I lost him exactly 3 months ago at 18 weeks along. He is my true angel and i feel so very blessed for every moment i spent with him. We don't know why he passed away, and are still trying to get answers. I am so lucky to know all the ladies who have shared their own personal stories with us, and will be thinking and praying for all of us today.

KK said...

Please know my thoughts and prayers are with your family. I will be lighting a candle for you and so many others.
Prayers for peace and comfort,
Kaye
Psalm 46:10

B and B's Mom said...

As I write this my candles are lit.

My name is Holli, and on March 5, 2008 my daughter Brenna was born still. My uterus spontaneously ruptured. I almost lost my life that morning, also. But, I think the Lord I'm still here.

Ailis said...

Hello, My name is Ailis. I am remembering 2 babies this year. My first was lost August 19, 2008 due to my own choice as well which I deeply regret.

My second baby- Brenden Patrick- was discoverd to have no hearbeat exactly one year after my first on August 19, 2009.He was born the next day on August 20, 2009. He was 7 pounds 19 1/2 inches long.

He was very much wanted by his mother and father. Brenden was stillborn at our doctor's appointment and I had to be induced at 36 weeks and 3 days. Brenden entered our world for such a small amount of time.

After 7 weeks of not knowing what caused this, and not expecting to know, we found out that my sweet little man passed away from congenital lukemia (which by the way does not run in the family at all. It is one in every 5 million babies that develops it in the womb on their own.)

I truely believe that this happened for a reason. God had a plan for my son just like he has a plan for all babies that have passed away. They were too special for earth.

My sister Amanda has a blood disorder that turns into lukemia in the long run due to a terrible car accident she was in.She has been battling this for almost 5 years and she is only 21. For the 2 months after Brenden passed away my sister was so sick. She was losing handfuls of hair left and right. She was very weak, bruising, and couldnt even get out of bed. She told me, "Ailis i keep seeing the word lukemia in my head. I think i have lukemia." Later that day I told her that the baby passed away from lukemia.

The next day Amanda felt 100 percent better. She could move, get outta bed and clean the house. She went to her appointment at the blood and cancer center and discovered that there is absolutely no sign of lukemia whatsoever. Her platelets were up the highest they had ever been and the doctor said he no longer needed to see her.

I feel that Brenden took away her sickness and I know that i have a very special little man. There are signs everywhere for not just me but for all parents who have lost a baby. Sometimes you dont have to look as hard to notice them. But the sign are there. Our babies are with us.

Thank you for letting me share my story. Each one of you are in my prayers.

Medic61 said...

I light my candle for Avery Morgan, 5.6.08

Terra said...

I am lighting a candle for the first time. My husband and I thought that this upcoming November we would be parents for the the first time. Yet, our plan took a different route. We learned at our first appointment with the OBGYN that our precious baby's heart had stopped beating. We had seen it's heart beating fiercely 3 weeks prior and were so overjoyed to becoming parents. It was suspected that our baby had Trisomy 21 and just wasn't able to handle the extra fluids. We were devastated and just didn't know where to turn. You see we had already had 3 deaths in our family, 2 immediate family members, and the joy of the news this precious baby brought lifted our spirits after the devastating losses we had felt. I named our precious baby Lily and soon learned through the chromosomal testing that my intuition was correct on her gender.

Lily left this world to live with God and I know she is looking down upon us. She would have been born next month and not a day goes by that I do not think of her and wish things could be different. I am thankful for sites like this to allow those of us to not feel so alone when grieving the loss of child.

Lily Elaine will always forever in my heart be my first child and I am thankful for the gift of her life that God gave me. It was much shorter than I anticipated yet, I know she if fulfilling a bigger purpose in heaven.

Anonymous said...

I am lighting a candle tonight in honor of my best friend who lost her first son at 14 weeks. We will wait to meet you Edward Frances.

Steph said...

My name is Stephanie and I will be lighting 3 candles in honor of my beautiful triplets born too soon. Mackenzie on 10-16-08. Patrick, and Abigail on 10-30-08. We love you and miss you. Lots of love for all the mommies and daddies remembering their babies today.

Jenell said...

My daughter Makenna was stillborn at 23 weeks in December 2007. Every test was done on her and me and they could never find a reason why her heart just stopped.

My twin girls, Alexis & Ashlen, were born premature in November 2008 due to pre-term labor/incompetent cervix.

It was been a rough 2 years and I miss my three girls every single day!

Jess said...

My name is Jessica. I lost my first angel in fall of 2007 at 5 weeks. In April 2008 I became pregnant again only to discover a blighted ovum at our 6 week u/s. In August I lost our 3rd baby angel at 4w5d.

:::HUGS::: to all my PL sisters around the world.

Stacy---thinking of you always!!!

Mary said...

My name is Mary and I lost my angel Amiee Nicole on July 27, 2009. She was born July 25th 2009 and lived for 43 hours. She had a neural tube defect - anencephaly. I lit my candles for her and all other babies tonight.

Autumn said...

My name is Autumn and we lost our 1st son and 3rd child, AJ, to Trisomy 18. He was born April 14,2008 and spent an amazing few moments in our arms, before meeting his Lord and Savior.

MoDLin said...

I'm so sorry for everyone's loss. Sadly, far too many of us know this pain. The March of Dimes has created a bereavement kit for families who have suffered a loss through miscarriage, stillbirth, a birth defect, SIDS... You can read about this sensitive kit and even order a free copy at this link: http://www.marchofdimes.com/pnhec/572.asp
I hope you find it helpful.

Heather said...

I have lost 2 children. I had a miscarriage at 13 weeks in jan. 2004. I also lost a son, Andrew. I had a placental abruption and he passed away at 2 weeks old from complications. His bday is 3/05. I know one day I will hold them again for eternity.

Charity said...

I know October 15th has already passed, but I found your blog post and wanted to add my babies to this list.
My name is Charity, and on Thursday, my husband and I lit a candle for our 2 babies who are in Heaven safe in the arms of Jesus.

Alethia Joy was stillborn on February 3, 2009 at 39 weeks gestation.
Baby #2 (who we named "Grace" because of the constant reminders of God's grace through it all) was miscarried at 5 weeks on July 20, 2009.
We miss our babies with all our hearts and are waiting and hoping and praying for the Lord's blessing of new life in our family someday.
www.tonyandcharity.blogspot.com

Julianna said...

My name is Julianna, my husband and I will light a candle for our sweet son Colton John.

Our heartache began when I went into labor at 22 weeks last October. I was put on bedrest in the hospital with the bed in trendellenberg (the foot raised above the head) to fight gravity as my water bag was in the birth canal. I stayed there for 10 days. On the 10th day, an ultrasound discovered our sweet baby was transverse and along with his hand his umbilical cord was dropped thru the cervix into the water bag. The doctor decided it was way too dangerous for both of us if the water bag were to rupture so I was put directly into surgery to take our baby via c-section.
Colton John was born October 24, 2009 at 23 weeks 5 days 12" long and 1lb 4.6oz with just over 1/4" really dark brown hair. He lived for 57 minutes before his heart slowed to a stop.

I was told I was an inspiration in relying on God to help support our family in our time of heartache. I don't feel like it was such a feat to rely on our Heavenly Father when we have no where left to turn...when the skill of earthly beings can only go so far there is only one other logical place to turn.
-Thank you for sharing your prayers with us and allowing others to share their stories.