Wednesday, October 15, 2008


Today, October 15, is the National Day of Remembrance for pregnancy and infant loss. In honor of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day, it has been suggested that grieving parents and family members light a candle at 7 p.m. in their respective time zones to create a wave of light around the world in memory of babies lost to pregnancy and infant loss. Would you join me in this today?

I am also "borrowing" an idea that I thought was beautiful from Angie's blog. If you have lost a baby due to miscarriage, stillbirth, SIDS, or any other type of infant loss, I would like to be able to pray for you today. Please feel free to leave a comment on this post with your name (if you are comfortable), the nature of your loss(es), your child's/children's names, and as much information as you are comfortable sharing. My comment would look like this...

My name is Stacy. I lost my first child to miscarriage at 13 weeks in November, 2007 due to triploidy. I lost my son, Isaac Timothy, on October 7, 2008 to several congenital anomalies. He was born alive and was with us for the sweetest 16 minutes of my life.
If you are reading this and haven't had the experience of losing a child, then I invite you to join me in praying for these dear families.
Psalm 121
1 I lift up my eyes to the hills—
where does my help come from?
2 My help comes from the LORD,
the Maker of heaven and earth.
3 He will not let your foot slip—
he who watches over you will not slumber;
4 indeed, he who watches over Israel
will neither slumber nor sleep.
5 The LORD watches over you—
the LORD is your shade at your right hand;
6 the sun will not harm you by day,
nor the moon by night.
7 The LORD will keep you from all harm—
he will watch over your life;
8 the LORD will watch over your coming and going
both now and forevermore.


Anonymous said...

i haven't experienced your kind of loss and am so sorry you have. i will join you in prayer

Cara said...

I commented on Angie's blog and I am honored to here, as well.

My name is Cara. I have three children. Our first, Emma Grace was lost on September 8th, 2000. She was delivered, stillborn, at 40 weeks.

We are lighting candles tonight.

Stacy said...

My name is Stacy and I suffered a miscarriage in June 2006...we were going to name her Lillian Grace.

Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. I will join you in prayer tonight also. I've lost 4 babies in the second trimester - it's a heartache that never goes away. Your son is so beautiful - and I'm praying for you guys daily.

Kim said...

As your pain is so fresh and recent, Stacy, my prayers are for you. That you would continue to know the peace that God is granting, but yet able to grieve and know that God is big enough to handle it all. {{{{HUGS}}}} I came here via Angie's site one day and have been thinking of you and your hubby and your entire family in recent weeks.

My story is here if you would like to read it.

One of the times I asked God "why?", he led me to 2 Cor. 1:3-7. And 10 years later, He is still using my babies to bring glory to himself...I praise him for that.


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Mary said...

What a wonderful thought.

My name is Mary, I lost my first angel in January, 2007 at 10 weeks. I lost my second angel in May, 2008 with a chemical pregnancy.

I will be praying for all the angels in heaven today.

gottaluvboyz said...

My heart, thoughts, and prayers are with so many today who have suffered the loss of their precious baby.

I am blessed to have 3 little guys at home and one precious angel in heaven. My DS#1, Parker, has a twin brother/sister in heaven that I miscarried during the first trimester.

((((hugs))) to so many of you today!

Anonymous said...

I have been a reader of your blog, and want to tell you that Jesus can be seen through you. My prayers have been for you and your dear husband during this difficult time.
My name is Erin. We lost our 4th pregnacy due to trisomy 18. His name was Quinn and he was beautiful. His angel day was Feb. 26, 2001. We lost our 7th pregnancy in our 10th week. God has been so good. We have 5 living children and 2 sweet little ones waiting for us in heaven.
We will be lighting a candle tonight, also.

Shelli said...

Hi, my name is Shelli and I have lost three precious ones to miscarriage and one to an ectopic pregnancy. I am so sorry about the loss of your gorgeous son.

Anonymous said...

I have never lost a child, but I support each and every one of you who have. Praying for you all.

Laura W. (Rocky Face, GA)

Anonymous said...

Today I remember my cousin Lia & her precious son James who was stillborn at 20 weeks.

Anonymous said...

Hi. My name is Heidi & we had a miscarriage in May in the 6th week. Not too far along, but still devastating, none the less. We're expecting again & praying for a healthy child. I've been reading your blog & my heart breaks for what you've just gone through. May God con't to use you during this time & bring comfort & healing to your body & your family. Blessings....

Tracey said...

My name is Tracey and I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks this past May.

I have a 1 1/2 year old daughter and I tell myself everyday that she has a special angel guarding over her.

Stacy, the size of your heart never stops astounding me. During your time of grief, you are praying for others.

I will continue to keep you and Isaac in my prayers. And I will keep everyone else who suffered a miscarriage or pregnancy loss in my prayers today too.

lisavengesta said...

my name is lisa, and the people i am asking you to pray for are my brother and sister in law. their triplets were born on sunday (october 12, 2008). they were born at 24 weeks and one day. their little girl didn't make it, but the boys (sebastian and mario) are in the NICU. please just pray God's blessing on these two little precious boys, and just for God's grace and healing for my sister in law and brother who are going through this tough time. thank you...

Tracy said...

Hi, My name is Tracy. I lost my beautiful baby girl, Hannah Grace, on June 6, 2000 due to Cystic Hygroma with fetal hydrops. I was 25 weeks along. I had a miscarriage in August of 2003 at 10 weeks. In September 2005 I had another miscarriage at 12 weeks. I do have 3 beautiful boys-7,4 and 2 that I thank God for everyday. They are such a blessing.

Brittany said...

Hi my name is Brittany,
I will give you some background about my story. I got pregnant with my first child 6 months after my husband and I got married...totally unexpected. But we were so excited...he was born Sept. 2006. Then in June 2007 I found out I was pregnant again...a little nervous about how I was going to be able to handle both babies, but I too was very excited. As I am sure you know, you begin to plan their lives, how you will adjust, what they will look like...etc. I went to the ob for my first appt. and that's when I found out that things might not be as they seemed. To make a long story short, I went back once a week for a be told that my baby had died. July 12th I had a d&c...I was crushed! But God is faithful, and 3 months later I got pregnant again...though I was very scared, I had to rely on God...funny thing is, my due date with this baby was July 12th...I knew God was going to take care of me, and I delivered a healthy baby boy July 6, 2008! SO please pray for me, as I will be praying for you! Thank you and God Bless!

Tammy said...

My name is Tammy and in August of 2007 I gave birth to twin girls. Vanessa Hope went to be with Jesus (amniotic band syndrome) after 18 hours of being loved by her family and friends here on earth. Savannah Grace is here with us and doing well. We miss Vanessa everyday and my 4 and 6 year old talk about her all the time. Reading your blog has brought back so many memories. Your son is beautiful and he was loved so much - I know he felt that. You will never be the same. Tahnks for your ministry to all of us. Praying for you - I will light a candle, too.

Laura Ann said...

I am praying for you and your husband this morning along with all of the other Mommy's in the world who have shared in your grief. You AMAZE me. Here you are dealing with your own loss and and 8 long days later you are thinking and praying for others...WOW! You are truly a child of the most high God. Thank you for sharing. May you feel comfort and peace today.

Amber Saltamachia said...

You must be the sweetest person alive. Your loss is so profound and so fresh and yet you want to pray for others who have lost sweet babies. I am humbled by your sweet spirit. I lost our first baby in July of 07 at 10 weeks. I had our sweet baby Avery on June 2, 2008 and he is precious. I pray you will know the joy I have one day.

Stephanie said...

My name is Stephanie, and I lost my son Levi on April 25th, 2008 to Trisomy 13. He lived for about 4 1/2 hours and those were the most special hours of my life. I miss him so much and look forward to being with him again. Even after 5 months, my arms still ache to hold him. I'd give anything for just 1 more minute. I've been praying for you!

Meredith said...

I don't know if you remember me, but I think of you all the time. We were on the knot together starting in 2004. I have had 4 miscarriages in the year 2007. I am currently 28 weeks pregnant and thank God everyday for this precious miracle.
I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss - I have been praying for you.

Klenck5 said...

Hi Stacy, I am praying for you often and thank God for your family. I will light a candle tonight for You, my Mom, my Sister, and for Myself. We have all suffered the loss of a baby.

The Balsmeyer Family said...

I am with you all in prayer. Although I have never experienced the pain that you have, I have a long list of friends & relatives that have had babies leave them all too soon. This includes my cousin that was stillborn at 38 weeks. May pd's peace wash over you today

Kristin said...

I'm so sorry about your loss! My name is Kristin and I have a beautiful 18 month old son. I recently lost my second child by miscarriage at 8 weeks. God bless these little angels!

Mommy to Madison, Matthew and Melanie said...

Hi Stacy... I am praying for you.
My name is Gaby. We lost our son Matthew at 21 weeks due to Renal Hypoplasia. His kidneys never developed right. He was born in God's hands and we thank god everyday for having him in our lives. We have now 2 little ones, Matthew's older sister Madison is 3 and Melanie is 8 months old. I am praying for you guys and baby Issac will always be watching over you.

Anonymous said...

I have been following your blog since a few weeks before your precious son's birthday. My heart and prayers are with you.

My name is Jodi, I have one Earthly child, who is 15 years old, and one heavenly child that was lost due to miscarriage in June of 2006.

Liz and Will Timmerman said...

I am in awe of your spirit, and how you are reaching out to other moms who have lost babies, even as you are still mourning for your son. I found you through Angie's blog, and am grateful for the chance to write my own first born's name, Luke Thomas who was born still on February 19, 2008. There is not a day that goes by where I don't think about him, and miss him. We are now 12 weeks pregnant with our secound child, and are struggling between mourning our Luke, and looking with hope to the future with this little one.

You are in my prayers daily. I know your son is so proud of his parents, and the beautiful way they have honored his life.

Super Momma said...

Hello, my name is Susan Proctor. I have four blessings on earth and two in Heaven. I lost twins in the womb. Zechariah Isaiah, 8 weeks and Hezekiah Tom Thumb was delivered stillborn at 18 weeks. Both will forever be our family's heart.

Mitch said...

I have been following your blog for several weeks, like others, and you have brought me closer to God in a falling world.
I am so terribly sorry for your loss, and continue to pray for you. Isaac is beautiful, just as the dr said he would be.
We lost an angel last July to an ectopic pregnancy but have 4 months old twins and a 15 and 11 year old by the grace of God.

Kelly said...

I wanted to let ALL of you know that my family will be praying all day long! We lost our baby girl Liberty Lee on Oct. 27, 2007. She was 5 months and 3 days old. At 3 weeks she was diagnosed with a very rare genetic disorder the doctors new nothing about. We were blessed to have her for 5 months and I am looking forward to the day that Jesus calls us home so that I might be reunited with her! Liberty has an older sister named Aspen and a brand new baby sister named Cheyenne Hope. We love and miss our little one but continue on knowing full and well that she is watching over us. The days do get dark, the hours drag on from time to time, but our God is suffient. His love will carry you all through just like He has done for us each step of the way! God bless you all!

I am doing this same thing on my blog so PLEASE visit my blog and leave a comment so that I can continue to lift your family up in prayers through the day! God bless you all!

Kelly Turner, Libbys mommy forever and ever!

Aunt Robin said...

Stacy i will join your prayers at 7pm tonight and will light a candle for your first baby as well as for little Isaac.
Aunt Robin

they call me the boss said...

I lost my second child to miscarriage at 9 weeks, April 7, 1996.
Praying for you and Spencer today Stacy.

Stephanie said...

THe size of your heart is amazing. Your wounds are still so fresh, and here you are trying to help others! You are a very special person and I will be praying for each and every one of you today.
May your angels be proud of each of you!

Anonymous said...

I am so sorry for your loss Stacy - I have followed your blog for many months now, and I pray daily for you. I will be joining you in lighting a candle tonight.

My name is Cora Lea, and we lost our first baby in September 2007 at 10 weeks. We are still waiting for God to bless us again.

Anonymous said...

My name is Carrie and I miscarried at 7 weeks on September 29, 2008. I cannot imagine the pain that you must feel having carried your sweet son almost to term. The pain I feel losing something at 7 weeks is unbearable and I want you to know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

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mommyof5 said...

Issac is so beautiful and perfect. I am praying for you and your husband. I have never lost a child, but have friends tht have. I pray that God will continue to bless your family with his comfort and understand and surround you with support and love.

Christina said...

How sweet of you to pray for others when your grief is still so fresh. My name is Christina, we have two precious blessings here on earth, daughter's aged 4.5 and 3, and one born to heaven in August at 15weeks, Corine Stephanie, due to a cystic hygroma on her neck and an abnormal placenta and umbilical cord. I will light a candle today in Corine's honor and continue to pray for you and your husband.

brandi said...

I lost my first child on August 6, 2006 in a first trimester miscarriage. I now have a 15 month old son, Nate. I pray for you, your husband and Issac daily. I will pray for your family and all the other mothers of angels tonight when I light my candle for my angel.

Valerie said...

My name is Valerie. I lost my first child to miscarriage at 12 weeks in March 2007 due to a blighted ovum. I lost my second child at 8 weeks in June 2007 due to Triploidy 16.

I then had a daughter, Tessa, in April 2008.

Keeping you in my prayers,

Foreverloves said...

That is so kind of you.

I am the woman who sent you the bereavement announcement a few days ago (not sure if you got it yet). My name is Jennifer, and the announcement was from my sons, Jacob Anthony and Zachary Ethan who were born at 21 weeks gestation after I went into labor too soon for unknown reasons. They were born perfect and alive, but too small to survive.

Jacob and Zachary are our only children, though I just found out I am pregnant again after more infertility treatments. So please pray for my little boys, and also for the new life inside of me.

God bless you all and God bless Isaac!!

Anonymous said...

I have never experienced your kind of loss.. but we will light a candle in honor of you two sweet babies~ always remember they are in the loving arms of Jesus now!

Dylan's Mom said...

My name is Katrina. We lost our first son Dylan Gabriel on June 17this year. He was born with a series of conditions and the doctors classified him as VACTERL (verterbral issues, a congenital heart condition known as Hypoplastic Right Heart Syndrome, and kidney failure). He graced our lives for six beautiful days. He is our little gaurdian angel!

Irene said...

My name is Irene. I have lost six children to miscarriage.
Jesse and Emmanuel, 14 weeks, August 2005
Aaren, 12 weeks, May 2006
Jo and Rowan, 8 weeks, August 2006
Ssanyu, 10 weeks, April 2007

I lost my daughter, Elsa, to stillbirth at 37 weeks on August 2nd of this year.

I will light a candle tonight for all of us who are grieving. Thank you for letting us know about this opportunity.

Anonymous said...

Still praying for you and your family, Stacy. And all of the other women too.

Please pray for us...

We lost Emily Anne this August at 16 weeks in our pregnancy.

Anonymous said...

My name is Amanda - I am 30 years old. I lost my first 2 babies (twins) Sutton Elisabeth and Gabriel Matthew on August 12, 2003 at 21w3d due to preterm labor. The babies both lived for a little under 2 hours before dying peacefully in our arms. There are no words to describe the loss of a child and I am so very sorry that you have had to experience this not once - but twice. I will be lighting a candle tonight and will keep your little one close to my heart.

God Bless.

AuntLibby said...

Dearest Stacy,
Please know that you and Spencer have been the truest testament of faith that I've seen in my entire life.
I heard of your story through a mutual friend at PSU and have been glued to this site ever since!

My name is Libby and my husband and I gave our first angel to heaven in June of 2007. We just recently had a baby girl - 5 weeks ago today - and have felt heaven's blessings in our lives more each day!

I think of our first angel every day, and I will never forget the love that I had for that makes the love for our baby girl even stronger.

Healthy babies are true miracles and we may never know why God takes some of the tiniest angels from us...but isn't it great to know that we'll see them again!!??

I'm praying for you...every single day!
THANK YOU for restoring my faith!

Monica @ Writer Chic said...

I'm Monica. I lost our first, I belive a son, in late February 2007. We were blessed with our son Seth in December.

Stacy, we love you and continue to pray for your healing. Hugs.

Paige Thompson Shepherd said...

Hi Stacy, I have not lost a child, but I continue to pray for your family. Your strength and trust is amazing. You are an inspiration and I know your son is proud of you. I wish only the best for Spencer and yourself in the future. You are loved.

Anonymous said...

My name is Debbi. I lost my first child due to a miscarriage in November 2002. I then lost my second child due to miscarriage in May 2003. I was then blessed with a healthy baby, Katelin in September 2004, but I still think about my first 2 children and wonder what they would have been like.

Anne said...

My name is Anne and I will be lighting two candles for my miscarried baby, Hope (04), and one for my stillborn Baby Boy, Carson Graham (05).

Always remembering...

Kelly said...

You are so strong and amazing that, in your time of grief, you want to pray for others. Your family is in my prayers as well.
My name is Kelly and I lost my Angel in May of 2004 at 11 weeks.

Anonymous said...

my name is karen and I have 3 little angels awaiting me in heaven whose names are Blessing, Hope and Glory. they were all born into Jesus' arms in the first trimester. Blessing-2000, Hope-2001 and Glory-2003. it still hurts and I still struggle. I marvel at the grace God has given you and pray for His mercy and grace for my broken heart, for your broken heart and all the broken hearts represented here. many blessings to you for your unselfish love for us, your sisters in Christ.

Anonymous said...

Hi Stacy - I am still lifting your name up in prayer.

My name is Darla. I suffered a miscarriage in August 2007. My son Nicholas Joseph was born in June of 2008 and lived 23 days. I miss him with all my heart.

We will be also lighting candles tonight.

Emily said...

I'm Emily and my third baby girl, Miller Grace, lived for five days, eight hours, and forty-eight minutes. Born on June 23, an extremely rare brain condition allowed her to go home to Heaven on June 28, 2007. It has been fifteen months since she left us and we will never be the same.

Laura said...

I will pray for you and your family tonight as I have for the past few weeks. My sister's first son was still born at 40 weeks, Sawyer Allen Frey would be 7. We will light a candle tonight to remember him, and Issac and all the other tiny angels!

mandie said...

We will be lighting a candle at our house too- in honor of our lost babies, Isaac, and all the angels named here.

My name is Mandie, and we lost our first two babies in 2007- a missed m/c of our "Turkey" at 11 weeks in May, and our little Grover baby at 8 weeks in September. We were blessed at last with a healthy baby boy, Anderson, 4 weeks ago today.

Much love to you today.

lots_of_love_four_kids said...

Hi, My name is Jenni. We lost our 4th baby due to miscarriage on January, 21, 2007 at 9 weeks.
God Bless You and all of the families that are grieving the loss of a baby.
I will be praying today and feeling the prayers of others. Thank you for this post.

The Mom said...

I am Jennifer and we have lost two babies to miscarriage in April 2008 and September 2008. I am thinking of you all tonight.

The Fabulous Ms. Beth said...

I light a candle tonight for my Charlie, his two siblings lost to miscarriage. I will light another candle for all of the little angels playing with mine. Charlie was born November 30th 2006 and lived for 81 hours. Since Charlie, I've had two miscarriages.
My heart goes out to you today as you remember your sweet Isaac.

Jen said...

I lost two babies to miscarriage, in May 2006 and Sept 2006. I have since been blessed with Triplets that will be 1 on Nov. 1.

Sheila said...

I will light a candle tonite for all the angels playing with mine. Stephen Joseph lost at 19 weeks due to cervical incompetence and angel baby # 2 due to miscarriage at 6.5 weeks.


Huddle Girls said...

My name is Amanda. My third son, Gavin Michael, was born April 7, 2008 and passed away May 3, 2008. The best guess of all of the doctors is that he suffered a cord accident while in utero. I was blessed to have 26 days with him. He was the spitting image of his older brother Carson. He is so very loved and missed by his mommy, daddy, and 2 big brothers.


Beckycain6 said...

My name is Becky, and I lost my baby in June of 2002.

In addition to my own never-ending heartache....I pray the Lord will allow me to carry some of yours as well. I think Isaac is so beautiful and perfect....

The body of Christ will prevail. God is aware, and His grace is abundant. I know that He hears us and will surely deliver is from our place of grief.

I'm still praying for you, Stacey. This is just a sad, sad thing......

Courtney said...

I shared this on Angie's blog, and would like to share it here with you as well.

My name is Courtney. My husband and I have two precious angels in Heaven waiting for us. Our first daughter, Hallie, was diagnosed as potentially having Trisomy 18 on October 26th, 2007. We went through the next 3 months having our hearts ripped out at every appointment, and every ultrasound. It was sometimes so hard to smile as we watched her kick, roll, and punch at the ultrasound wands at all of our appointments, but wow she is still such a blessing. I went into early labor one day before the exact three month point of when the bad news started. I delivered my sweet sleeping angel at 1:47AM on January 26th 2008.

We were very shocked to find out we were pregnant again on May 22nd, as we really hadn't even tried...Sadly we lost this baby as well, at 10 weeks, on July 10th.

I want to say thanks in advance for those of you who will pray for us today, or ever, and I hope God blesses each of you!

Alexandra's Mommy said...

Stacy -
I will join you at 7pm in Minnesota to pray for you and for anyone and everyone who has gone through that type of pain and loss. I can not even imagine what you are going through but my family will be there tonight in lighting a candel and praying for everyone out there that has experianced this type of loss.

The Schuler Family

E said...

I am praying for you. You are experiencing so many of the feelings I had when we lost our first child, a little girl named Avery. She had Trisomy 18 and lived for 25 days. I miss her every day. Thank you for your openess and honesty on your blog.

Melanie said...

Hello and thanks for posting this. I too am a mommy to angel in Heaven. My baby passed 8weeks gestation on March 22, 2008 (due date was Oct. 6th). He was my first and I miss him more than ever. I know the Lord has a plan and I will keep you in my prayers tonight. Our angels are rejoicing in Heaven!

Connie Davis said...

I haven't experienced a loss, but drawn to mommys who has because it was a close case with me. I was diagnosed with Cholestasis very late in my pregnancy and could have resulted in stillbirth due to the condition not being treated. It was a very scary time. I know that my circumstances could have been different and it made me seek out other moms who have losses, not because I know their pain, but because I came to a realization of the kind of pain that a loss can bring on a person. I will pray for all the moms tonight who lost their angels and my son and I will light a candle in their memories. God bless all you wonderful mommys out there!!!

Jocelyn said...

I also commented on Stacy's page and I too will lift you all in prayer this afternoon! My mother lost triplets, before I was born and she still grieves the loss of her girls and my very best friend just lost her grandson, 36 weeks gestation, several months ago. My heart was so heavy for her and I cannot begin to imagine the heaviness in your hearts. May God bring you understanding, acceptance and peace! Thank you for sharing this part of your life with all of us! It helps me to continue to have Faith and Hope!

Amanda said...

Hi Stacy
My name is Amanda
I want to tell you how you and your dear precious Isaac have brought me closer to the Lord. Your son is an amazing little boy, I will never forget him OR your family-you hold a very special place in my heart!

My husband and I lost our first baby in Feb. 2005-it was a very sad time for us but Jesus held our hand through it.

We now have two healthy children
and couldn't be more thankful for them.
I am praying for you-that God holds you close and walks you through these hard times.
Love and Prayers

KK said...

Praying for you and your husband without ceasing and all families who have loved and lost. May every individual we pray for today continue to find comfort in HIM, that only HE can give.
Psalm 46:10

nellieboo said...

My heart goes out to you and Spencer. Your faith is amazing and has encouraged me to reconnect with mine. I miscarried our first baby at 10 wks in March '08. I am currently 9 wks pregnant and hope this one sticks! I will pray for all those who've lost a child.

Mary said...

My name is Mary, and we lost our first precious child, Baby J, to an early miscarriage last month.

I am so lifted up by Isaac's story and the difference that he, you and Spencer continue to make in the world.

It inspires me to live a more faith-filled life, and walk closer with God.

Thank you. We will be lighting candles tonight.

Hunt Fam x3 said...

I will be honored to light a candle for you and your little ones and for any other family who has lost their child. I feel blessed by your sweet spirit and I know God has his loving arms just WRAPPED around you! God bless!

Your SISTER in Christ.
Montgomery, AL

Kristin Ross said...

J and I continue to pray for you and Spencer daily. Thank you for including this:

My name is Kristin and I lost my child to miscarriage at 8 weeks in May, 2008, due to trisomy 16. We miss them everyday.

Love to you guys always!

Anonymous said...

My name is Allison. I have suffered four miscarriages: one at 6 weeks, one a chemical pregnancy, one a blighted ovum and one at 15 weeks. No doctor was able to give us a reason, but we do have three beautiful children on earth with us now. I have been following your story and will continue to think of you and admire your strength.

Mrs. Mother said...

My name is Tamara. My husband and I lost our second daughter, Jenna Grace, to Trisomy 18 at 21 weeks. She is forever in my heart, and I am lighting candles tonight to honor her and many other lost babies.

Anonymous said...

My name is Tonya and I lost my first baby to miscarriage on Jan 28th, 2008 at only 7 weeks. I will be lighting a candle tonight in memory of many hopes and dreams that will never be forgotten.

Anonymous said...

My name is Sarah and I lost our second child at 12 weeks in September 2008. Our family will light a candle tonight for Baby Scrappy, your sweet baby Isaac, and all the other angels who are so dearly missed.

I found your blog after my loss and have been following it ever since. We will continue to pray for peace and strength for you and Spencer. Your witness and Isaac's life have had a profound impact on me and my family.

Lauren said...

Hi, friend. It's Lauren Uhrich. I will be lighting a candle tonight.

I lost my first baby, "Moriah," to miscarriage at 8 weeks and my second, "Samuel," at 4.5 weeks, before carrying the third pregnancy, sweet sweet Norrah to term. She is alive and well and we are so thankful for all of our babies... here on earth and those waiting for us in heaven! Well, they probably are not standing around waiting... they are hanging out with Jesus. But... we are waiting to meet them!

The Blatchford Family said...

My name is Tina. I have had 2 pregnancies. The first was a missed m/c at 18 weeks last September. He had a ringed 18th chromosome. My second pregnancy resulted in DS, Lincoln Christopher, he is living with Tuberous Sclerosis Complex. I will be praying for both of them today of all days.

Big hugs to you and your family as you remember your sweet Isaac today and everyday here after. Thank you for sharing your prayers.

Courtney said...

My name is Courtney...I lost 3 children to miscarriages. I will be praying for everyone tonight!

Anonymous said...

I lost my first child to early miscarriage in 2002.

I am praying for everyone today.

Erika said...

My name is Erika and I suffered a miscarriage last month - Sept 12, 2008.

I will be lighting a candle tonight in honor of all of our precious babies.

berty12777 said...

My name is Tiffany. I miscarried my first child on October 19, 2007 at 12 weeks. I am currently pregnant with my second child, Allison Emilia, and am due on November 13.

I will be lighting two candles tonight - one for my baby and one for all the other babies that have been lost.

Stacy - you, Spencer, and Isaac have been on my mind and in my thoughts.

Beth, Dave and Cori said...

Hi. My name is Beth and we lost twins in our first trimester at Easter in 2007. We will be lighting two candles tonight, and we will be thinking of all our angels at home with God.
God bless you and your sweet Isaac - he is beautiful.

Rhoda Wickey said...

First of all I just want to say that my heart goes out to you for your loss. Thank you for sharing your story here.
I lost my second child on August 25th, 2008. We named it Ashor. We believe or child is "happy and blessed" in the presence of God.

emmay said...

My husband and I lost our first baby at 10 weeks on October 16, 2002. It was the greatest heartache I have experienced. We have since been blessed with two beautiful little girls, both of whom were born prematurely (28 weeks and 30 weeks). I will be doing volunteer work at the NICU tonight, so I'll be lighting a candle in spirit.

wife, mommy, and nurse said...

I am a NICU nurse and have seen many losses. I am truly touched by your blog because it gives me a glimpse of what parents experience after they lose their little one. I have cried with many parents as they held their babies during their last breath and am so glad you were able to do that with your Isaac. Thank you for your willingness to share you story, it is an amazing testimony of your faith.

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sandi said...

My name is Sandi and I have lost four babies to miscarriage one in 1989 at seventeen weeks and three in the past two years all before the eighth week.
I am also the mother to fourteen living children. I have adopted ten infants and have been blessed with four homegrown babies. God's hand is in all things. I am the lucky mother of children that were told would never see their first birthday. I am the lucky mother of a son that was left to die because he was too early to be viable. I am the lucky mother of a child that was born with zero apgars and was revived in the OR. I know God hears and answers prayers. I also know he does things according to his will and not ours. I believe in Miracles. I am parenting a whole bunch of them.
I share this with you so that you will know that even with all the miracles I have in my life and all the babies I have had to fill my arms. It doesn't take away the emptiness for the ones that didn't get to stay.

I have been blessed by you and your family. I have reflected many nights about how much I have to be grateful for. I have held my children all a little bit tighter after reading Isaac's story. I am praying for you often and want you to know how amazing I think you are.

Chris said...

How strong you are to be thinking and praying for others during this raw time.

My name is Chris. I lost my first angel at 12 weeks in October of 2005 due to a partial molar, I lost my second angel at 8 weeks in July of 2006 due to miscarriage, and I lost my third angel at 7 weeks in November of 2006 due to miscarriage.

Candles will be lit in our house. Peace to you.

shyanne butler said...

My name is Shyanne and I had a still born March 13 1999 Kolby Wayne Eaby he was so perfect he weighed 13 ounces and was 10 inches long. Please keep me in mind when you light your candle because I will not be somewhere where I can. I do however live in Utah and they have candle light ceremony on december 5 at the angel statue with Richard Paul Evans and I will think of all these wonderful families when I light my candle. Most people have read this book but just in case you have not please do it is one of my faviorites The Christmas Box.
I also wanted to include a poem for you that was written to me by a friend when Kolby had his first birthday.

As you looked up at the star filled sky.
I am sure you had to wonder why.
Why you'd gone through such grief and pain.
Just to say goodbye to him when he came.
His life was short but filled with love.
He was truely sent from god above.
As you looked up at the moon so high.
And saw his face through the tear in your eye..
I am sure it hurt to let him go.
Only you his mother could ever know.

Lindsey said...

Stacy, you are amazing. In the midst of your own personal storm, you are offering prayer for others.

I miscarried our first child at almost 9 weeks in May.

Thank you for your prayers.

Jessica said...

I will join you in prayer tonight. I have not lost a child, but my brother was born still 23 years ago. You are in my prayers every day. Be strong.

Stephanie said...

I have been wanting to comment since I heard about your blog from my sister-in-law a few days ago.

My name is Stephanie and my husband and I lost our precious daughter, Elise Nora, on the same day you lost your Isaac, October 7th, 2008. She was 4 days old. Your blog and your faith have inspired us and I recently started a blog to tell our story at

I am feeling so many of the same things that you are; somehow that shared experience makes the load a little lighter. May you continue to find strength as you walk this difficult path.

Holli said...

My name is Holli and I lost my daughter Brenna on March 5, 2008 due to a uterine rupture.

Kelly said...

Please know that you are in my daily prayers.

I posted on Angie's blog as well, and will add the same to this post:

My name is Kelly Gerken. We lost our identical twin daughters, Faith Elizabeth and Grace Katherine who were born still at 26 weeks gestation on November 3, 1996 during the first perfect, silent snowfall of that year. On July 14, 1998, our son Thomas was born. He was with us for six hours before he went home to heaven. He had Potter's Syndrome, a condition that is incompatible with life. We have two living born before our losses and one born after. Because beauty is born from the ashes, God has given us a ministry for mothers and families who experience the loss of a baby due to miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant death...Sufficient Grace Ministries for Women. You can see our October 2008 Remembrance Page and learn more about our story by going to:

You can also write to us for support or to receive a Dreams of You Memory Book. We do not charge bereaved parents for our services.

Sarah said...

My name is Sarah Hourigan. In April, my husband Patrick and I lost our first child to a miscarriage at 9 1/2 weeks. Her name is Macy Jane Hourigan and I miss her everyday.

Stacy- your courage and faith amaze me. I would love to meet you someday (we attend Mountain View Community Church).

The Morris Family said...

Remembering our 4 miscarriages in 93', 97', 2007, and 2008 and always forever remembering our 3 yr. Joel 1/23/07

Kristin said...

You show great faith in that you willingly pray for others during your time of great sadness. May you be blessed with peace and comfort today knowing that many are praying for you.
We lost our 3rd child to miscarriage early (4.5) in the pregnancy on February 19th of this year. My due date would have been October 24th. We are now pregnant again and 9.5 weeks along.
My prayer for myself when I found out I was pregnant again was not for the pregnancy but that God would prepare my heart for whatever He has planned for us.
Although I still have fear and worry about the "what-ifs", I know that I can't live my life that way and however He chooses to bless us with this pregnancy I will be grateful for every day.
I will be lighting a candle in South Dakota today for you and the hundreds of women who have loved and lost a precious little one.
Kristin Smith

Erika said...

Hi, my name is Erika. I lost my second child to an early miscarriage.

I lost my third child, Vivian Margaret, and my fourth child, Annemarie Patricia, to Twin to Twin Transfusion Syndrome on July 12, 2008. They were identical twin girls, stillborn, and delivered at 20 weeks gestation.

Thank you so much for your prayers.

Anonymous said...

Not a day goes by that I do not think about and pray for you and Spencer.

My name is Allison and we have two angels waiting for us in heaven. We lost one at 6 weeks and our son lost his twin at 7 weeks. As other posters have said, not a day goes by that we do not think about our angels.

I pray for peace for all of us and I pray for all of our angels. I read this poem a while ago and I think it is fitting for today:

What Makes A Mother
I thought of you and closed my eyes
And prayed to God today,
I asked, "What makes a Mother?"
And I know I heard him say:
A Mother has a baby,
This we know is true
But, God, can you be a mother
When your baby's not with you?
Yes, you can, he replied
With confidence in his voice,
I give many women babies,
When they leave it is not their choice.
Some I send for a lifetime,
And others for the day,
And some I send to feel your womb,
But there's no need to stay.
I just don't understand this God,
I want my baby here.
He took a breath,
and cleared his throat,
And then I saw a tear.
I wish I could show you,
What your child is doing Here...
If you could see your child smile
With other children and say,
"We go to earth to learn our lessons
of love and life and fear,
but My mommy loved me so much
I got to come straight here!"
I feel so lucky to have a Mom who had so much love for me,
I learned my lessons very quickly,
My Mommy set me free.
I miss my Mommy oh so much
But I visit her each day.
When she goes to sleep,
On her pillow is where I lay.
I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek,
And whisper in her ear,
"Mommy, Please don't be sad today,
I'm your baby and I am here"
So you see my dear sweet one,
Your children are okay.
Your babies are here in My home,
And this is where they'll stay.
They'll wait for you with Me,
Until your lessons there are through,
And on the day that you come home,
they'll be at the gates waiting for you
So now you see
What makes a Mother,
It's the feeling in your heart,
It's the love you had so much of
Right from the very start.
Author Unknown

Renee said...

My husband and I lost our precious baby boy just a month ago. His heart was not beating when we went to the doctor for a follow up ultrasound. A lot of what we were told with him sounds very similar to your story. We found out he had a cystic hygroma on the back of his neck. We later found out he had abnormalities in the brain, heart, and kidneys. We had an amnio and was told Trisomy 18. When that test came back normal, he was tested for DiGeorge. It was normal. I found your blog through Bring the Rain. I have been in constant prayer for your family since I began reading it. Hearing our stories so similar breaks my heart because I understand some of what you have gone through. I just wish we could have had our little man with us for longer as well. I was 22 weeks pregnant. We went to the hospital that night after no heartbeat, Thursday, September 18 and delivered him Saturday, September 20 at 9:42 pm. He weighed 15 ounces and was 11 inches long. We know that he is completely healed and in the arms of our Heavenly Father. God bless you and your family! I will continue to be praying for you as you continue your journey and the tough days ahead.
Renee Henderson
Covington, GA

Megan said...


I will pray for you & Spencer today, as I have each day since learning of your story. I pray for peace, for comfort, and for the joy of knowing that Isaac is waiting for you in Heaven.

Your faith is truly inspirational and has drawn me closer to Christ, and I thank you for that.

I have been blessed to have a beautiful son, but have known many friends and my own sister who have experienced losses. I cannot begin to comprehend the sadness in your heart, but can offer my prayers. I will light a candle in my home tonight for you, for my sister, for my friends and pray to the One who has all of this under His control.

I truly hope that you can feel the love and support that all of us have for you, reaching out to surround you and sustain you as you grieve.

In Prayer,

Meghan said...

My name is Meghan. I loat my first baby at 7 weeks and 3 days on 11/29/2007. The baby stopped growing at 6 weeks and 4 days. I know have a beautiful baby girl who is almost 2 months old. I will never forget my first baby,

Our Life in Pixels said...

My name is Sarah and our baby met Jesus when I was 9 weeks along. It was a missed miscarriage and although the pain of the lose is still there we are comforted knowing that we will meet this baby one day due to the grace of God's salvation. God blessed us with 1 child before the miscarriage and 2 after.
You have been in my thoughts and prayers. I know God is carrying you as well as the hundreds of people praying.

Maria (MKC101103) said...

My name is Maria and my husband and I endured three miscarriages in 2007. All of the angel babies are in my prayers.

Anonymous said...

I recently lost my unborn baby. I was 13 weeks along at the time. The Lord has been teaching us so much throug this and I know He has a purpose and plan for why this happened.

Jer. 29:11 "For I know the plans that I have for you,' declares the LORD, 'plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope."

you are in my prayers.

Becky said...

Dear Stacy and Spencer,

I am so incredibly sorry about Isaac, I can only imagine how difficult it is for you. I had stumbled upon your blog from another message board, and after reading your posts it hit home even harder once I realized why Spencer looked so familiar. I, too, am a teacher, currently working at Stephen Knolls school, working with students who have a visual impairment. My first year there was Spencer's last I believe, but I will never forget how wonderful he was with the students and how much the other teachers loved him. Please let me know if there is anything we can do, as I'm sure Stephen Knolls as a whole would love to help anyway they can.


My name is Debbie and I had a stillborn little girl named Chloe Eva at 31 weeks. As of yet there is no apparent reason for the stillborn. This happened on Sept. 12th and I miss her more and more everyday and I will never be the same. I will keep you in my prayers and light a candle for little Issac.

erin w. said...

i'm lighting a candle and i'll be praying for you stacy

Taylor said...

You know me! But for those that don't...

My name is Taylor and my first son, Nathan, died moments after his birth on June 24, 2008 because of Trisomy 13. We miss him more than words can describe.

Teresa said...

My name is Teresa and I lost my first child in March of 1991 in the first trimester and my forth child in September 2005 in the second trimester. Thank you for the opportunity to share this. Your journey has been touching and your faith inspiring.

Renae said...

God has filled you with such grace and compassion, Stacy. Thanks for praying for all of us, and remember, we will not stop praying for you.

My husband and I have lost three babies to miscarriage.

Anonymous said...

My name is Jennifer. I have two little girls with me here, Hannah is 4 and Natalie is 22 months. Our 2nd child (between the girls) we will hold in Heaven. Jordan Lynn was lost at 10 weeks due to a missed miscarriage on November 10, 2005. We miss him still.

Thinking of everyone who has lost a child today.

Brenda said...

Stacey, I have been following your story for a couple of months. First, let me says that my prayers are with you and your husband. I know you find comfort in Issac being in Heaven. I have been praying that God grant you all the peace that surpasses all understanding.

I am also a women who has lost children, but none like yours. I had a very normal first pregancy with our 7 year old daughter. I lost our second child at 7 weeks (June 03), the lost our third child (a little girl) at 14 weeks due to Turner's syndrome, which is a monosomy (Nov 03), then God blessed us with the presence of our little man, Jonah (Sept 04), then we lost our fifth child at 8 weeks (Jan 06), then God blessed us with our sixth child, Ian, Oct 06.

Just know that I have complete confidence that god with bless you with the earthly children your heart so deeply desires. Brenda

Rachel said...

My name is Rachel. My husband and I lost our 2nd child, Gracie Elizabeth on Jan. 27, 2008. I had to have an emergency c-section at about 31 weeks because I had developed Hellp syndrome. We anticipated that Gracie would be in the NICU for a while because she was so premature. Shortly after her birth, we were told she had trisomy 13, which is incompatible with life. She lived for 13 days in the NICU before entering into Heaven. She was born on Jan. 14, 2008. We are so thankful that we had 13 days with our precious girl.

Melissa said...

Hi my name is Melissa and a friend of mine showed me your blog and I have been following it ever since. My heart goes out to you both.

I lost my first baby on Feb 20th 2004. I was 6wks along. It was devistating because we wanted this so badly and it seemed everyone around was was getting pregnant unexpectedly and less excited.

I am happy to say our son was born Feb 27th 2005 almost exactly a year later. We were blessed with our daughter July 18th 2008. God works in mysterious ways.
You are always in my thoughts.

Emily said...

Remembering sweet Isaac today.

BLOWL said...

Hi, My name is Brianne. I had 2 pregnancies and 2 micarriages. The first was a natural miscarriage after 5.5 weeks on July 4, 2008. The second was a missed miscarriage diagnosed on September 15, 2008. The D&C was performed on September 26, 2008. Thank you for doing this. I'll light a candle at 7:00pm Hawaii time.

Anonymous said...

My name is Kara. My husband and I lost our first child, Hailee Eileen at 21 weeks due to bilateral renal agenisis on July 8 of this year. The 21 weeks that I had her were the most wonderful 21 weeks. Now, we know that she is in Heaven looking over us...and that comforts me. We carved a pumpkin in her memory last night..and will be lighting candles tonight.
I have been following your blog and have never commented before. Your son is a beautiful baby.

jaime "dolcedulcedoce" said...

Stacy, you and your family will be in my prayers today.

My name is Jaime. I have four angel babies. Angel was miscarried at 11 weeks in June 2002, Bing was miscarried at 5w 2d in October 2007, Poppy was miscarried at 4w 4d in July 2008 and Baby P was miscarried at 4w 2d in September 2008.

allison said...

It's amazing to be joined in prayer on this very special & sad day. Thank you for doing this. My name is Allison and I have 2 angel babies. I suffered my first miscarriage in July 2007 at 6 weeks pregnant. I suffered my second miscarriage in March 2008 at almost 12 weeks pregnant. Today, I remember my babies. I also say thanks as I am currently pregnant once again...with twins!

Anonymous said...

My name is Jill. My husband, Dave & I lost our first child 3 weeks ago. I was 12 weeks along when we found out that our little baby's heart had stopped beating & only measured at 8 1/2 wks. It's been difficult but God is helping us through it.

You are such an inspiration. I'm so sorry about Issac. You are on my mind every day & I will continue praying for you.

AngelsAmid said...

My name is Krista. I lost my first baby in January. The baby had been with us for 7wk3d. I'm currently 35weeks pregnant and pray everyday for her health and safety. Tonight I'm lighting my candle for my baby and for your babies.

ann said...

I lost one to miscarriage, 20 years ago.

Leah said...

My loss doesn't even compare to yours. My heart breaks for you.
I lost my first pregnancy at 13 weeks in November 2007, my second in May 2007 at 7 weeks due to ectopic pregnancy, my third, a set of twins, in May of 2008.

Stephanie said...

My name is Stephanie. And I am a mother of 3 and the fourth on the way. Of that, I am a mommy to 2 angel babies, and one earth baby. My first Isabella Neveah was lost at 12weeks, and my second Angel, was lost at 9 weeks due to Turners. I have a beautiful son that is my life... and hope to have a baby girl here safe and sound in December.

Stacy & Spencer - I continue to pray for your strength and think about your little baby Isaac daily. You are an amazing mommy!

KrazyMom said...

My heart goes out to you and know that your family have been in our prayers!

My name is Kelly and I have two angels in heaven, and a nine year old here with me. I suffered my first miscarriage at 6 weeks in May of 2001 and miscarried my son, Hunter, at 17 weeks in Nov. 2001. I am now no longer able to carry biological children, so my husband and I are at our beginning stages of an infant adoption journey. Though the pain of our losses never goes away, I rest in the fact that they are in His arms and I will one day be able to hold them both!

Thinking of you tonight as I light my candles as well!
{{hugs from MI}}

cookfam said...

My name is Carmen. My husband and I lost our first child due to miscarriage in 2002 at 11 weeks. We have since had a son Grayson who is 4 and a daughter Emma Grace who is 1. We lit a candle earlier tonight and prayed for all of these sweet angels mentioned in your comments tonight!

Amy said...

You are such an incredible witness to the strength we can gain from the Lord...your wound is so fresh and yet you are willing to open your heart to our heartbreak. Thank you. You have and will continue to be in my prayers. Isaac and my Natalie are snuggling with Jesus until we can hold them again. Love you lots and lots.
Here's my story...My name is Amy. Our first child, Natalie Sapphira, was diagnosed with acrania, lack of a skull, at her 18 week ultrasound. There was nothing to protect her brain or make it form properly. The doctors told us that, if she made it to full term, we might have 20 minutes with her. We prayed so hard for a miracle, but if that wasn't part of the Lord's plan for her life, we asked for some extra time with her and some hair (this was important to us since because of her disablity, the doctor didn't know if she would even have any portion of her scalp, let alone any hair). At 35 weeks, I developed preeclampsia and had to be induced. Natalie was born on March 14, 2006 and stayed with us for 38 hours and 58 minutes before meeting Jesus. The nape of her neck was covered with thick, curly black hair. Even though the Lord didn't provide the miracle we thought was appropriate, he still was faithful in answering our other prayers. I will never forget the way she smelled, the way she felt in my arms, the way she turned her head to find her Daddy after hearing his voice, or the way she looked into my eyes and I could tell she knew that I was her mommy and that I loved her. I have since had a son, Malachi, and am due again in April, but nothing will fill the void in my heart since she left.

Ashi's Ima said...

I am so very, very sorry for the loss of sweet Isaac.

I lost my second child (and a tube) to a ruptured ectopic pregnancy. Even though I lost him so early on (9.5 weeks,) it is a pain that will never go away.

(((hugs))) to all you brave ladies on this day of remembrance.

Nancy said...

My prayers are with you today, Stacy, for your loss is so recent.

My husband and I miscarried our first pregnancy at 9 weeks. Our second pregnancy was fraternal twins, one of whom we lost at 6 weeks. Our fourth pregnancy also resulted in miscarriage at 7 weeks. But, praise the Lord, we have four healthy, wonderful boys!

renee said...

I found your blog a few days ago and am so sorry for your loss of Baby Isaac (how beautiful he was). You are truly an inspiration to all of us. I lost our 1st child by miscarriage at 10 weeks in 2002 and we now have a little girl who is 4 years old. You and your husband will be in my prayers. Thanks for sharing your story.

Beth said...

My name is Beth. We lost our amazing twins at 11w4d on July 10, 2007. God is good and blessed us with our son, Ethan, on July 11, 2008.

Lindsay Barr said...

My name is Lindsay Barr. I have a six year old daughter, and another daughter, Zoe-Beth, who would be gone a year in just two short days. I had an emergency cesarean at 33 wks, due to a massive placental rupture. She was born on September 29th 2008 and went to be with the Lord on October 17th, at 19 days old.
I lit a candle today as well, not only for my little one, but for ALL the little ones, taken home so soon. I've followed your story since late August, and I am grateful that you chose to share that journey, and the one beyond, with us. I have prayed for a miracle, and prayed for peace and joy to come in your family. I love you guys.

Kirsten said...

Thinking of you and praying for you today.

Chloe Faith
April 19, 2008
Stillborn at 5 months in the womb
Down Syndrome


Baseballs and Tutu's said...

Praying for you!

Melanie said...

Stacy and Spencer,

You both have such strong and giving hearts. In the midst of your own personal grief, you are taking the time to allow others to share their own losses. Today, my husband and I have officially been trying to conceive for a year. On August 25, 2008, I had my first positive pregnancy test. On August 28th, I miscarried my baby. I'm glad my angel baby gets to share Heaven with your angel baby and your beautiful Isaac. I know they're safe in God's loving arms, and our loving hearts. My prayers will always be with you.

Melanie Hodge
Ringgold, GA

Anonymous said...

Dear Stacy,

We continue to lift you and Spencer up in prayer during my a.m. devotion, noon devotion, and evening devotion. I am ashamed to say I have not yet lit a candle, but Andy, my husband, is right now. We have a small angel figurine which looks down over us, on our wardrobe. The candle is right next to the angel.

Hi all. My name is Jill, and my husband Andy is here with me as I write this. This day is a particularly rough one for me and Andy. My husband and I lost our first son, Art, (short for Ardren Seth, a family name) on Dec. 23, 2005. I never had the chance to meet him because I coded and bled out in the O.R. However, Andy, my pastor, and 2 close friends were at the hospital at the time, for which I am thankful. Art had a heartbeat in the OR when they took him, and I feel by being unconscious, I failed him on many levels. I bled out very close to his passing, and remained unconscious for six hours following, so I can only hope we crossed paths in that twilight between here and heaven. I see his face a lot in my dreams.

I miscarried our second naturally at 5w6days in May, 2006.

I miscarried our third, a daughter we named Juliana, during Easter 2007, in Central America. It was scary physically and emotionally to miscarry in a developing nation, and in a nation where our only option was to "leave" her remains there, although I fully realize it was not "her" we left. We are thankful we have friends there to "be" with her.

I miscarried our fourth naturally after returning to the U.S.-- fall 2007, at 7weeks, 6 days. I am thankful we had family with us.

I began to miscarry our fifth on Dec. 16, 2007, at 6 weeks, and actually passed the pregnancy during Christmas Eve service at church. We were thankful to have my parents and our daughter Isabela, as well as our church with us at that time.

We are not pursuing any more bio children due to risks to my health, and no solid concrete answers for why I can not carry to term.

We are unbelievably blessed with 2 beautiful children whom we were able to live with, raise, and adopt in Central America. Isabela is nearly 3, and Mario is 17 months, and we are so lucky they found us. We are joyfully yet nervously on the way to completing our family with a 3rd child from Kazakhstan in late 2009.

Much love to all today, prayers for all losses, for all broken and mending hearts.

Stacy, many prayers for you and Spencer. The Bible verse you have in your blog today was one of the favorites of an elderly woman in our congregation whom I used to serve communion to as my visitation ministry. That verse has taught me a lot about where and how to find comfort.

Stacy, you will forever be in our prayers. Your family is so very loved. We will see you at Isaac's service to memorialize his life.

Our candle is now lit for all of us here, and everywhere, and especially for Isaac.

Much love, Jill and Andy

Brittany said...

My name is Brittany..

I miscarried in July 06 at 12 was devastating. Since then, we have been blessed with a precious 14 month old baby boy.

We are all praying for you today.

Just Me said...

Remembering Isaac, and joining you in prayer for all those who have experienced pregnancy and infant loss.


Anonymous said...

My name is Rebekah. I lost my first baby due to miscarriage at 11 weeks in January 2004. I had a healthy baby girl in January 2005. On August 10, 2008 I had to deliver my 2nd daughter, Reagan Ryann, early by c-section at only 20 weeks 5 days due to her having severe fetal hydrops and me developing pre-eclamsia and other health problems. She lived for one hour before going on to be with our Lord. It is hard realizing that she has been gone for 2 months, yet I still have 2 months until her duedate.

Jessica said...

Treyson Kemp Carlin
June 6, 2008- June 6, 2008
One beautiful hour.

Thank you so much for remembering.

B Family Life said...

My name is Jennese. I lost my my first baby to miscarriage at 8 weeks in 1999. After the birth of my son, I lost another baby @ 7 w 6 d in June 2008. I do not know the gender but I felt strongly she was a girl, so I call her Grace.

For some reason I can't stop crying reading Stacey's blog entry and all these comments. I am humbled by the amount of support and faith that one incredible handsome little boy can light this world with in just 16 minutes. What an incredible legacy.

God bless all of your and your Angerl Babies! I will pray for you

Anonymous said...


Anonymous said...

I've never experienced such loss but my heart aches for you, Stacy. I'm so very sorry. Your son is beautiful.
Victoria, BC Canada

Lydia said...

I lit a candle for you and your beautiful son Isaac tonight. You are all in my thoughts.

Michele said...

My fiance and I are getting married this Saturday, on the day of Issac's memorial service. We both sat next to our computer and cried tonight for his loss. We are facing a different road with our efforts to TTC due to my stage IV endometriosis, and we feel very deep pain for your loss. Isaac only lived 16 minutes, but he touched our hearts (in KS) and the hearts of the thousands of others who will read your blog, and I (along with you) am so, so proud of him for that. I am seeking God to help me through my own rough time, and I am so happy to know that Issac is resting in His arms. I don't know you, but God has brought me to you and I care very deeply for you. I hope your sorrow is short and that you realize that Issac meant very much to many strangers out there. I have spent many days at work crying over your blog, and I will be thinking of your sweet Isaac as I light my memorial candle at my own wedding this Saturday. God bless you and keep you strong. Michele

Deanna said...

I lit a candle for all of the Angel Babies tonight. I'm so sorry you lost your beautiful Isaac. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

mollyfrog said...

My name is Molly, my hubby is DJ, and our first boy Eric was born still on December 13, 2005, from limb body-wall complex. He was very wanted and very loved. Eric's little brother Gideon was born February 8, 2007. After Eric was born, I could really feel God with me, I'd never been so at peace. I miss Eric every single day, I wish I could get to see him grow up, and i can't wait til I see him again.

Anonymous said...

I will be praying for your family as well as mine and others.

I tried to get pregnant with my 3rd for 9 months after doing so, I was so excited, but I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks on October 31, 2006. On Halloween. I still had to be strong for my other 2 kids and it was very hard. I have never been more depressed in my life. I always wondered was it a boy or a girl? Did I do something wrong? 2 months later I found out I was pregnant again I was so scared and nervous. My baby, Beau, just turned 1 last month. Thank you for letting me share my story with you.

Anonymous said...

I lit a candle last night and prayed for your family.

boltefamily said...

I prayed for you all as I prayed for my boys in heaven last night.

Anonymous said...

My name is Lynne.I have been following your story for a few weeks, and think of you often.
I have lost 3 children to miscarriage, 2 around the 6 to 8th week. The first one I was 12 weeks, but baby was only developed to around 6 weeks.
I do have 4 happy, healthy children.(3 girls & a boy) My first miscarriage was after my first 2 children (now ages 11 and 8) were born. I then had our 3rd child,(now age 4) and had another miscarriage in July 2007. We then learned we were pregnant- a bit of a December 2007, and just gave birth to a sweet little girl 4 weeks ago! We are very blessed to have her, as I thought we might miscarry- but we used progesterone supplements early in the pregnancy, since the levels were low. We had to do this when I was pregnant with our 4 yr. old daughter too. I am very lucky to have all of my children, and I try not to take anything for granted!
I wish you continued peace and healing at this difficult time.

I would also like to pray for my baby brother in heaven. He was stillborn at about 7 months in 1979, and at that time, they really didn't encourage Mothers to hold their babies who were stillborn. He did not even receive a name. I wish my Mom would have had pictures, footprints, and other memories to help with her grief. We did have a private funeral for him. Mom also had another miscarriage- I think about 3 months along. My parents now have 11 grandchildren to love!
I am so glad you spent those minutes and hours with Isaac- the pictures are beautiful! He is an angel!

Anonymous said...

our daughter, Heather and husband Steve, miscarried a baby last month at 8 weeks along. This is still raw spot for them- as you have stated, Stacy, the emotions are confusing and change. We are over 800 miles away and I would love to hold our daughter and let her cry the needed tears.
You have been an inspiration.
Marcia from Nebraska

Anonymous said...

I am so very sorry for your loss. I lost a pregnancy on October 7, 2003 -- five years to the day before your precious Isaac entered the world. The pain never fully goes away, but a year later I delivered my beautiful daughter, and I thank the Lord every day for her and for the joy she brings to our lives. I pray you are able to find that joy one day too, even though you'll never stop grieving Isaac's loss.

Rebekah said...

My heart goes out to you and your family. Issac was so beautiful.

My best friend lost her daughter Chelsea Lauren at 18 weeks last month.

awaltons said...

How beautiful that you would pray for us when your pain and your loss so fresh. We are praying for you as well. My name is Autumn. We lost our third child, first son on April 14, 2008 due to Trisomy 18.

C said...

Thanks so much for thinking of all the moms who've lost babies. I lost my first baby in my first trimester. It was very hard.

Polly Gamwich said...

We've lost 4 babies in miscarriage and we have no living children yet.


Thanks for suggesting the recognition to those that too often go unrecognized.

Anonymous said...

I have been following your story, and your faith and love astound me. You are truly an inspiration and you and your husband are in my prayers. God bless you!!!

Sharon said...

ive been reading your blog a day before you had you beautiful son. my sister told me about you. and my heart was just so heavy. i just had a son, James william. im 16 and i would always think people would be so upset that i had a perfect little boy at an age so young, when i wasnt even ready and i doubted him.i cant help but to feel that way.. and im sorry. God works in very mysterious ways, youv made my faith grow so much! and i pray daily for my and my baby james. hes 8 weeks today :) and im grateful fore every second. thank you for having such strong faith. Gods going to bless you and your husband like crazyy! youve got a huge throne in Heaven, right next to your son :)

Anonymous said...

I have had three miscarriages. I've also been blessed with three healthy babies.

Susan said...

Thinking of you tonight, Friday, and praying for a good day tomorrow as you celebrate your beautiful little boys life. I know it will be the second hardest day of your life He did more for and had more of an influence on many people in his 16 minutes than most do in all their years. God Bless You tomorrow and every day...

MiniMe Mom said...

Praying for you today as you have the remembrance service for Isaac's sweet life. What a beautiful baby, he has touched many lives.

Eugene Peterson:
“Everytime someone tells a story well, the gospel is served”

Thank you for sharing your story with us, allowing us in.

Becky said...

my name is Becky and we lost our fifth child at 20 weeks. she was a girl - kadee lynne. our fourth child benjamin is 6 and was born with many problems. we are so lucky to have him with us still. please visit his blog to meet him. he's our little piece of heaven on earth.